Are you wondering why I am talking about gender and sex? Like you do now, I too had many questions, curiosities and anxieties about gender and sex.
The closet was made
Of charming mahogany
Made with the blood
Of a conservative household
Sacrifices of the heartless
Where we actually are in the UK; part hiding, part free – looking over our shoulder before we kiss. As I glanced back at the other people in the cinema, a million miles away from us… fear someone would see me cuddling a girl was acute.
I once asked her what she identified as. She proceeded to tell me that while she identified as pansexual, she chose to tell people she was bisexual. At the time, this was a little tough for me to understand. However, over time, I began to understand why she did it.
Classrooms are supposed to be safe spaces that allow everyone to learn, socialize and innovate. Let me tell you that none of that applies to most classrooms.
Under tremendous pressure to find a suitable partner for myself, I finally took the plunge and created my profile on a popular gay dating app.
When you - a straight person - visit a therapist, they won’t assume that all your problems stem from your sexuality. They are not going to confront you saying that “That bi thing you’re doing” is wrong and that you should stop being bi.
Over the past 2 years, I have learned more about the community's needs. My space has been acknowledged and my voice encouraged.