Comments on: Tum Gay Ho?

By: Jayshree

Jayshree — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 00:59:44 +0000

Well, I think mom’s are always there to understand. I thank my family and friends. I came out to them and have been extremely supportive. My mom was the last to know. When I told her she looked at me and hugged me. She’s said she will always love me no matter what. She cried becuz she was like why didn’t you ever tell me. What did i do wrong that you didnt feel comfortable talking to me about what you were feeling. I think the only thing i regret is not trusting her enough to tell her. But it’s hard when it comes to telling something so deep. Something that you kept in for sooooooo long. I will always love my family and friends.

By: DK

DK — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 18:21:54 +0000

From Yahoo Audibles:
K*lm*h*y, tenu isie liye paal-paus ke vaddaa kitta si.

By: deepseas

deepseas — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 07:23:20 +0000

hmm.. have heard that one before.

By: MJ

MJ — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 06:06:08 +0000

Hey hey aren’t we missing the baap of all desi dialogues – “Khandaan ki naak katwa dee tumne” –

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By: DK

DK — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 17:03:16 +0000

lols…!!! How about this one, “Kitna SACRIFICE kiya tumhari ache parvarish ke liye, aur aaj ye din de rahe ho???”
With lots of emotional PUNCH…right in the middle of your heart, or liver or kidney, watever you think is precious…:D

Jokes apart, Moms are all special. Just that sometimes it gets difficult for some of them to understand this part of their child out of their sheer desire to choose only happiness in their child’s future.
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Sometimes geographical distance does matter. It helps in identifying what really is valuable and what really matters at the end of the day.

By: deepseas

deepseas — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 17:49:49 +0000

Btw.. I think the question will be.. ‘Meri kasam khaake ke kaho,tum gay nahi ho’

By: deepseas

deepseas — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 17:48:06 +0000

DK – what you said is so true – about many of staying away to avoid opportunities for conflicts. And he whole bit about revealing very censored details about personal lives. Which actually becomes such a burden.

By: DK

DK — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 05:26:48 +0000

Who can deny Ekta Kapoor’s role in it :D…!!!

By: MJ

MJ — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 05:06:44 +0000

I very much agree with DesiDyke…Indian families simply love drama. Even when it comes to insignificant topics. But eventually they come around. Or maybe its just a wishful thinking!

By: DesiDyke

DesiDyke — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 08:08:07 +0000

Cute. Funny. But so very true. Indian parents are most dramatic of the lot. Bollywood maybe exaggerated but not entriely untrue.

By: Broom

Broom — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 02:36:54 +0000

Avani,

You’re really really lucky. Please tell your mom I admire her.

By: DK

DK — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:46:56 +0000

I think its the element of self-guilt among family members which really blinds them to accept the
preferences of their own child once she comes out to them. Parents are sometimes too busy in actually spotting a behavioural shift in the child at its budding stage. Sometimes they are just ignorant about the child’s reaction, which they only care to re-visit once the curtain is raised wide.
And then they desparately want to re-frame every single moment which stands as a proof of the fact that their child might be a gay.
Avani, you are lucky. There are many of us who prefer staying away from home working elsewhere to keep the pressure off the heads of both parties. And whenever there is a visit, its formal, and personal sharing, friends details, etc is deliberately kept out of discussion.

By: Avani

Avani — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 12:33:10 +0000

I agree…mostly.

Every-now-and-then you will find a really amazingly accepting a liberal Desi mother who, despite being brought up in India, having come to the United States only in her 20’s, and living with a terribly controlling husband, still manages to love her lesbian daughter and accept her for who she is. I will never forget her words as I cried to her while coming out, apologizing for not being able to be straight and the shame that I knew I would bring to our family…, she said– “Beta? Don’t worry. I love you more than anything and I can fight the whole world for you.”