It took more than 7 years of judicial struggle to legalize sex between same sex consenting adults. The final decision still rests with the Supreme Court. Queer unions continue to hold no legal stature. Looking at our current Indian scenario, child adoption by same sex couples seems nothing but a delusional dream.
But maybe a Western import or more precisely a Western research study could help in making this dream turn in to a reality, sooner than expected.
In a finding that confronts deeply rooted beliefs about parenting, a new study concludes that parents’ genders have little impact on children — suggesting that same-sex couples are as effective at raising children as heterosexual couples.
On average, children succeed most when raised by two parents rather than one. The parents’ genders, however, make little difference in terms of a child’s development, according to a landmark study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family. [...]
And Professor Judith Stacey’s (New York University) final quote sums it all up quite aptly;
“It isn’t about being gay or being male or being female. It’s about how important this (child rearing) is, how big a part of your life it is and how much you want to give to it.” [Discovery News]
Here’s hoping those in charge of our lives…arrey meaning in legal terms are paying attention. Or am I being silly again?
[News Tip Off : Orange Jammies]
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it says here that the gender of the parent doesnt matter,i kinda dont agree wit that entirely..i dont knw if life wud have been same had i been raised by two women or men,however competent they mite hav been as parents.i am gay,been so since i can remember..never been wit a man..but somehow feel i mite be just fine if i marry a guy..maybe i am kiddin myself..i want kids n i want my children to hav everythg that i had growin up..the major part of which was my father..i read somewhere in here abt homosexual homophobes..dunno if i fit the bill???
I’ve been married to a man. I’ve been with a woman for the past 4 years & I know that I would rather raise a child with her than with my ex-husband. My partner will be a better parent to our child than my ex husband could ever be.
I believe the gender of the parent is irrelevant – what’s relevant is how you raise the child.
As to whether you’re homophobic: Perhaps you are – we all have some ingrained homophobia, including me. The important thing is to recognise it and get over it.
reading all the stuff posted her,makes me think.confuses me a lot..everyone wishes to come out to their parents..i would too (maybe)at some point in the future..but isnt it nobodies biz..who i fall in love wit???i am goin bonkers ..i feel like i shud go n wake up my dad n tell him i am gay..but then i think do i need to hurt him that way..maybe i am a hypocrite..i’ve never been able to tell my parents..not that i havent thot of it..its just that readin all the stuff here n ur blog..makes me think that comin out is actually imp..
good parenting is independent of parents gender & their sexual orientation.
However, women generally are more nurturing & just imagine being brought up by two mothers than one in the traditional heteronormative setup !! would be awesome no
@SB coming out is an everyday process. And the more u share yourself with others; the more o.k. you become with yourself. Speaking out of experience! * hugs *
Thanks chicklet..{:)}..everyone except my parents knw..my brother n my friends so its a little complicated..
@SB – As Chicklet said – coming out is a process. It’s also something that, unfortunately, doesn’t end. I’m out to everyone around me and my parents – but I still meet people on almost a daily basis that I have to ‘come out’ to.
I believe it’s important – not just for yourself, but for others that walk this path after us. Good luck!