The Bisexual Dilemma

I have observed something (even in the Q community) – that when someone says they are “Queer”, people just assume they are “gay”. This was much more on my face and it reminded me starkly as I read the banner that was carried over by a Bisexual group in the parade – “Don’t assume anything!”. It was heart wrenching to see only ONE Bisexual group of about a dozen people walk by in a sea of 182 contingents during the parade – one that lasted just shy of 4 hours. For F*’s sake, there were more “straight for gays”  groups than the B or the T. So what really makes the Bisexuals not come out and embrace the rest? Or is it just the numbers?

At a personal level, I have been curious to understand the dilemma faced by the Bi folks. In a world where heterosexual and monogamous relationships are considered the norm and sacred (albeit foolishly), I really would like to request those who are Bi leaning  come out and talk about it, so we all can understand. I would like to understand their struggle in trying to cope up with the rest of the straight or the gay community. Do they feel a misfit at either ends? I have had people in the community tell me that they associate Bisexuality as being a wrapper for “a person not being able to accept their gayness completely”.  I think this is total BS.  I view Bisexuality as just a beautiful addition to the colorful spectrum of human sexuality.

Sometimes I have wondered- “If people are talking about natural attraction, Isn’t bisexuality the most plausible? If I find someone attractive, does it really matter what’s between their legs?”

Anyways, it all started with this article that I stumbled upon recently. [Link]

About the author


Rashmi grew up in India and now she enjoys her time living in one of the queerest places in the world. She started transitioning a while back and is gradually coming out to people she thinks are cool enough for her. She enjoys discussing any topic under the sun and has an opinion about anything and everything. She thinks of herself as someone who can only hold intelligent conversations with people, when in reality she is totally insane and crazy, not to mention she has been highly hormonal recently. *GRIN*