I have observed something (even in the Q community) – that when someone says they are “Queer”, people just assume they are “gay”. This was much more on my face and it reminded me starkly as I read the banner that was carried over by a Bisexual group in the parade – “Don’t assume anything!”. It was heart wrenching to see only ONE Bisexual group of about a dozen people walk by in a sea of 182 contingents during the parade – one that lasted just shy of 4 hours. For F*’s sake, there were more “straight for gays” groups than the B or the T. So what really makes the Bisexuals not come out and embrace the rest? Or is it just the numbers?
At a personal level, I have been curious to understand the dilemma faced by the Bi folks. In a world where heterosexual and monogamous relationships are considered the norm and sacred (albeit foolishly), I really would like to request those who are Bi leaning come out and talk about it, so we all can understand. I would like to understand their struggle in trying to cope up with the rest of the straight or the gay community. Do they feel a misfit at either ends? I have had people in the community tell me that they associate Bisexuality as being a wrapper for “a person not being able to accept their gayness completely”. I think this is total BS. I view Bisexuality as just a beautiful addition to the colorful spectrum of human sexuality.
Sometimes I have wondered- “If people are talking about natural attraction, Isn’t bisexuality the most plausible? If I find someone attractive, does it really matter what’s between their legs?”
Anyways, it all started with this article that I stumbled upon recently. [Link]