I know most people have a type when it comes to whom they’re attracted to. I have a very fixed type, and I rarely, if ever step out of that type. A while it occurred to me that maybe I like the type I do because I’m bisexual. My types are the two opposite ends of the human spectrum.
It’s not that I’m intolerant of a certain kind of self-expression, or that I don’t understand it, it’s just that I’m not attracted to a certain type of person. Or rather, I’m not attracted to anyone other than the type, or types.
I’ve said this before- I like very manly men and very feminine women. So for me to be attracted to a man, he has to be tall, dark, broad shouldered, and have a certain amount of facial and body hair. So I don’t like the Imran Khan/Ranbir Kapoor type.
And I have a very fixed type of girl. Almost anyone who fits into that mould is hot by my standards and nearly everyone who doesn’t isn’t hot. I like girls with long hair and curves- I’m quite a tits and ass kind of girl. It’s not that I don’t appreciate beauty of another kind; it’s just that they’re not my type.
I’m the kind of girl who falls somewhere in- I’m neither very feminine, nor masculine. But I don’t like me so much. If I saw me walking on the street, I’d probably go- “That’s a very cool chick, but definitely not my type.” I’d definitely not proposition me. And that’s because I don’t fit my “type”. And I don’t ever think I’d fall for a girl on a motorcycle. Not that it I don’t appreciate it (I’m that girl), it’s just something I find very hard to explain.
I wonder if this is a bisexual trait. I think subconsciously for me it might have something to do with lines getting blurred. Pardon me if I’m being politically incorrect because I don’t mean to say less masculine men are like women or “butches” are like men. It’s not that. For some reason I just don’t go there. Possibly because I like both men and women, I like the ones that exhibit all the typical traits of their sex. Since I don’t know any other bisexual people, I’ve never been able to find out if it’s a me thing or a bisexual thing. I haven’t any idea what dictates these things.
What say Gaysis?
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Hey girl,
You really said it.Looked as though you were ransacking my mind.Liked that bit about self description,I too fall in the same category about myself.Neither do i like Ranbir/imran kind,Nawaz ali or a mustachioed Rampal fit in well.
When it comes the girlie brigade,it is definitely Kajol n may be a priyanka but Kareena…masculina is a definite no..no.
People, you should look outside the desi spectrum too
Jane, I don’t think the extremes are a trait. I think it is just your personal choice. I know of Bis who like men and a little butchy women but not anyone else. I know women who like masculine women – i mean like acting tough, bike chicks, pixie cut, etc.and fem men…I think its one’s own choice and you stick to the extremes. You might be unique. So what? This is such a honest portrait of yourself. Kudos! Use the “brutally honest” tag sometime girl
Why put try to put all in a box? Why try to put a label and try to define everything?(I suspect its coz understanding brings acceptance?) Maybe you are really different. So what? That’s what makes you so interesting.
i identify myself as bisexual. I like men who are sensitive, emotional, good looking, have soft skin and are not too macho. They bring out the masculine side of me. And i digg women who are tomboyish, extremely naughty and a little tough. They bring out the feminine side of me.
i guess i like that balance and look for the same in other. As often heard
‘sexuality is very fluid’, i think its quite an individual thing!
makes us all very unique , no ?
I gotta agree about sexuality being very individual and it depends a lot on your life experiences. I am attracted to all genders, but am more attracted to femininity. Sometimes if I am looking for something different, I may have a crush on a macho dude, but because of experiences I have had with people (friendships and romantic relationships), I tend to rule out hypermasculine or shallow people. I really like when people are emotionally available, respectful, philosophical and nurturing… and based on my experiences those have been traits I more commonly attach to more feminine people. I think most people’s attractions are somehow related to significant and insignificant life experiences that they have had with all different types of people.