Being single sucks! I turn into an idiot who jumps at any chance to meet someone new and if she is cute I’m ten steps ahead in my head..
So the banana bar queer party is around the corner and I asked one of my close friends to bring along all her cute friends if she’s coming. She’s not exactly single but she’s not available either. In her own words, “I am dating…but yet not in a relationship….there’s a difference”. This situation confuses me the heck out of me.
What I think is… if one is dating then one is definitely in a relationship, whether it is an open or a committed one! And if you are dating someone, is it really right to call yourself single because in reality you are involved emotionally/physically with someone?
The word, “dating” has always seemed like such an ambiguous word to me. It could mean anything from going on a day out or spending time together to a one night stand. It could also be the stage before you commit. All said and done, if you call someone your girlfriend then would you still call it dating?
I suppose, one is single if one believes one is and as far as both people involved in this limbo acknowledges each other’s status.So I think I will go to Banana Bar party and check her out as well (she is all kinds of cute). I just hope her date does not turn up and if she does I hope they remain single.
Funny article, Sonal ! And oh so true- Single is such a vague word these days and means all sorts of ‘entanglements’. I hope Tuesday is oodles of fun for u
Another popular term these day to define your relationship is “It’s complicated”. Everyone seems to be in one of the “it’s complicated” thingies. If you can’t commit- its complicated, if you’re cheating on you’re significant other- its complicated, if you’re non-monogamous but are partial towards one person- its complicated, if you’re friends with benefits-it’s complicated. So much so, that nowadays, you don’t really know if things are complicated, or they’re perfectly clear to the parties involved, but they just don’t fit into a tag.
Well said! I dont like that term too much, though I’m forced to use it for lack of a better one to explain any or all of the above you mentioned. And.. it also includes – broken up but trying to (hoping to) get back with GF..
Well, I dont see any confusion in the term as Single but not available. We tag someone as GF only when we enter into commitment.
I just proposed someone and she said that she will think about it. So, I would say I am dating someone and trying to convert it to YES. And once thats done, she will be designated as my girl-friend.
And yes, if she finds someone else, whom she feels instantly connected, then she has all the right to say NO, and move ahead with that person. Love is not a race like one gets an early bird advantage.
Nice article Sonal and interesting inputs from the others! I would also like to add that, at times, when we are not in a committed relationship, our status depends upon who is asking about it
So you might prefer it to go as “If you are pretty then I am single”
Cheers,
sharkie