Congratulations gay people. We’ve arrived. If someone bullies or intimidates us and we take our lives as a result of their douche-bagery, we can rest assured that they will be convicted of bias-intimdiation and possibly, sentenced harshly. And in the case of Dharun Ravi, also face deportation to a country that he probably does not remember. I hope everyone is happy that justice has been served.
For anyone not a U.S. citizen, there are certain immigration consequences of getting convicted for crimes of moral turpitude and felonies. The immigration system does not give someone the leniency of being a dumb teenager. People are dumbfounded that Dharun rejected a plea deal of a 1000 hours of community service but he did so because pleading guilty of a hate-crime would have been treated as an admission of guilt for immigration purposes. Dharun rejected a very generous plea deal because he could have faced deportation away from his home and family if he had taken it. He decided to take his chances with a jury trial where a conviction would land him in jail precisely because he feared deportation more. Unfortunately, up against a time that an acquittal in a gay bias-crime case would have sent a bad political message, he lost the gamble and now he faces both jail time and deportation.
The result is not just a failure of hate crime laws and our criminal justice system — it is the failure of our immigration system to afford leniency. We aren’t just punishing Dharun for being a gay-hating douche-bag; we are also punishing him for being an immigrant.
There is one essential and awkward truth that no one really wants to write or admit: not many people would really care much for punishing Dharun Ravi if Tyler Clementi had not been a white boy who killed himself. Don’t tell me that a victim’s race doesn’t play a part in convicting and sentencing because study after study shows that it is a major factor, if not the biggest factor. Besides, last I checked, Brisenia Flores is still not a household name that is making national news like Tyler Clementi. There are many more who remain nameless and faceless because the mainstream media doesn’t assign much value to our lives.
To be honest, I’m kind of jealous of Tyler. And that is sad because he is no longer with us. I’m jealous because no one will ever punish the perpetrators of bias-crimes or intimidation directed towards me and many of my friends. After all, we’re still alive and trudging along. Faced with systemic racism, sexism and homophobia on a daily basis, we get angry, lash out at loved ones, storm about, vent and cry ourselves to sleep (or in the early morning) and go to therapy. If we end up hurting ourselves, we’re declared a danger to ourselves and hospitalized.
That’s the extent of justice I will ever receive. So you won’t find me jumping off a bridge anytime soon. After all, how do we rectify societal discrimination that is based on hatred and fear of difference? And who do we punish? As you can probably guess, I’m not a fan of hate crime laws. But that is another blog post.
Dharun’s discomfort of gay people does not exist in a vacuum. It’s the same kind of discomfort with difference and fear of ‘Others’ that is systemic. We see it on television. We read about it in newspapers. We experience it firsthand. Dharun just serves as a scapegoat for us. He is someone who needs to be punished because what we go through is wrong. And this is coming from someone who has faced a lifetime of actual violence for being gay and trans* from guys who look like Dharun.
I don’t like the consequences of the guilty verdict. But an acquittal wouldn’t have sat well with me either. Ideally, I want Dharun and guys like him to spend their lifetimes in service to the LGBT community. But thanks to our immigration system, we are going to serve this teenager a jail sentence and deport him only because he feared being deported. We are going to break up his family and rob them all of their American dream. That’s grand. I hope everyone is happy.
Next we’ll have to deal with op-eds penned about homophobia in the Indian community because every time a minority allegedly commits a crime, our whole community is held accountable. Op-eds that will render queer South Asians invisible while pointing fingers to members of our community due to the actions of one douchebag. Op-eds that will blame Dharun for not becoming a U.S. citizen and advocate his immediate deportation because his homophobia can’t possibly be American. Op-eds that will forget that Dharun Ravi is really being punished this harshly for being an immigrant who made the right decision not to plea guilty when faced with our bankrupt immigration system.
(FYI: Ravi is not pronounced Raa-vi. It is simply Ra-vi).
Editor’s note: This article was previously published here and has been reprinted with the author’s permission.