Not before I was sure myself. I am a survivor of child sexual abuse, so linked my sexuality to abuse, so was confused for a long long time. Though I felt sexual towards men, I never acknowledged myself as gay. Finally, I tried having a one night stand with a woman, but it didn't stand. That's when I realized that I should stand up for what I feel innately without attributing it to anything. I didn't want to live a life that the world wants me to. I didn't want to live a lie.
Queer Ink presents the first in a series of offline events: Qi Book Fair @Gulabi Adda. Over 300 titles in the Queer genre of fiction, non-fiction: romance, erotica, biography, anthologies, culture & history, etc. Books for LGBTQI, cross-dressers, young adults and for families.
My earliest recollection of my queer awesomeness was at Age 10. What was funny at that point was where I was growing up, there was nothing around me to indicate being Queer had a negative connotation. So for a few brief months - I was at my happiest knowing that I was Queer. It was great! ...and then, everything went downhill.
I have personally done everything considered black spots in our society. Live in relationships, pre-marital sex, being separated when pregnant, living alone, single mother, relationships and live ins after separation, being in a relationship with a younger man. I have no peers that I consider worthy of listening to. And I don't respect this fraud and conniving thing we call samaj. Luckily, thankfully, my family has always trusted that I would do the right thing and have always been there when I get my nose bloodied. I try and do the same for the children.
Folks, we're really thrilled to announce that Magdalene Jeyarathnam, who is the Director at the Center For Counselling in Chennai has very kindly agreed to answer any questions you might have about being LGBT.
If you've wanted to talk to someone with credentials about the struggles you're going through, or your friends and family members are going through - this is your chance!
LABIA (Lesbians And Bisexuals In Action) and RCWS (Research Center for Women's Studies), SNDT University invite you to the release of the 13th issue of SCRIPTS.
At a cynical level, I am thankful I am not one of the ubiquituous desis - being married; running behind 2 kids, attending kids' birthday parties every weekend and eating desi grub and talking about the latest tamil/telugu/hindi movies and gossip about the stars and about that friend whom we all hate, and all this while flaunting the finest silk sarees, dhotis and wearing all the jewels we could ever possess.
This past weekend, my cousin called and invited me over for dinner. She knows I'm gay & has met The Girl. Since coming back from Canada this was going to be the first time I was going to meet her & I kept looking for hints in the conversation we had, where she was inviting me over, to figure out whether she was also inviting The Girl.
Have you heard of Australian swimmer Stephanie Rice? I hadn't till a few days ago. Apparently she was watching a rugby match between Australia & South Africa and after the Australian team beat the South African team, she tweeted, "Suck on that, f@gg*ts!" Because, you know, the South African team is clearly gay if they couldn't beat the Australian team, because gays are such losers and not men enough.
When we were in Canada, The Girl & I went to a baby planning course. Basically the course went over all the options we had - adoption, surrogacy, artificial insemination with a known donor, with an unknown donor, legalities of each option, costs etc etc etc. We also met the children of other Lesbians who were 'graduates' of the course. It was such an amazing experience, listening to the other lesbians talk about what they went through, talking about the pros and cons of the method they chose and above all to see the babies!
SNEHA is a voluntary, secular, non-profit organization, established on November 27, 1999 in Dharavi, with the mission to address the health needs of women and children. The Centre for Vulnerable Women and Children has undertaken an international research study in collaboration with CREA (Creating Resources for Empowerment and Action) and UCL (University College, London). This study is being funded by CREA, Delhi. This study is being conducted in three countries namely India, Bangladesh and Nepal. This study aims to understand violence against marginalised women in south Asia.
Having been married (to a man) and then going through a traumatic divorce, I know first hand that marriage does not in any way, shape or form guarantee 'happily ever after'. So do I still want the right to marry? The short answer is: Yes.
It was a cold February afternoon when I first met The Girl. Three months later, my then husband & I decided to end what was left of our very unhappy …
When I first went back to India after living abroad, it struck me how affectionate men were with one another in India. I know it’s a sweeping generalization to say …
You can tell that Annie On My Mind is a wonderful book because even though it was written over 25 years ago, it still remains one of the most popular …
It’s always great to have support from fellow gaysis, but that’s something we can and should take for granted. The support from the straight community is harder to come by. …
... Jane Doe!
The winning slogan is: "Each of us is different, but all of us are EQUAL".
The slogan that was runner up was: "Freedom means loving whoever you like.", by IdeaSmith.
Fellow Gaysis & Gaysi Supporters,
It gives me great pleasure to announce the ‘Gaysi Community‘. Imagine me cutting a very pink, Disco Shaanti pink, ribbon and entering the …
Reader ‘Reza’ sent us this very funny parody & I wanted to share it with all of you:
My love for Kamila Shamsie’s writing began with ‘Kartography‘, grew with ‘Salt and Saffron‘, deepened with ‘Burnt Shadows’ and has now been permanently etched into my …