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The creators/organizers are asking for everyone to contribute any knowledge they may have about queer desi resources, publications, and so on. It seems that the South Asian countries they are including are Bangladesh, India, Nepal, Pakistan, and Sri Lanka (and the diaspora), but there is no harm in contributing any knowledge of resources in the other South Asian countries.
South Asia is not a predictable or cohesive collection of countries, especially in regards to queer people’s human rights. While India and Nepal are making strides in regards to LGBTQ human rights, there are other parts of South Asia where the threat to queer people’s danger is more blatant.
A while ago there was the gay Pakistani couple in New Zealand with family issues, but there doesn’t seem to have been too much drama going on in our world as of late. Trust that I’m pleased, but I find that hard to believe, so let me know if I’m missing any important news!
My willingness to speak openly about myself has landed me spots on panels, interviews, art projects, and so on. I always approach these with an open-mind and am usually happy to have the opportunity to express myself – sometimes I even volunteer to. However, I have wondered if my body and my words are being manipulated.
In a previous post I mentioned that my internship is at a youth detention center. The youth started voicing that they wanted to learn about “my culture” and I figured they didn’t want to learn about England so I took it straight back to the motherland. I spent time telling them about India and joked with the other staff in the room that I should show them a Bollywood movie.
Navin Manglani & Navin Dargani, aka “Navin & Navin” are a Manhattan couple who have been together 6 years. They got married among hundreds in New York.
MTV Splitsvilla is a show where larke and larkiyaan fight for love in, of course, Goa. This not so classy article discusses the supposed plans for the fifth season. Unfortunately a google search yielded no other articles. Despite the lack of quality sources on this I decided to go ahead and write about it anyway because it’s too intriguing.
[Photo from Gawker]
I came across an article on Gawker regarding the strange ban of queer, undocumented, and Muslim people from a garage sale …
In all the discourse around colorism, it always comes up that South Asian heterosexual men and South Asian heterosexual women find each other less attractive or worthy of a relationship and marriage the darker their skin. This sometimes leads to the conversation of South Asian heterosexual men having a preference for White women (remember “Rock n Roll Soniye”?). My question is, of course, where do queer people fall into all of this? While my discussion of the exoticism of South Asian queer women focused of White queer women’s treatment of South Asian queer women, my intent here is to highlight dynamics that play within the South Asian community.
At the start of this summer I started the final internship for my Master of Social Work program. I’m placed at the youth detention center where I anticipated the opportunity to work with minority youth, however I wasn’t sure if I was going to need to or be able to advocate for queer youth in the system.
Staged reading “Boys That Pray”. June 28th Tuesday, 8 PM at San Francisco
Allies come in all shapes and sizes, and to some of us, at least at some point in our life, it may have felt like they don’t exist. However, here are some common agendas that have become apparent to me.
When queer women are first coming out or becoming involved in the mainstream queer community they are often becoming subject to misogyny and objectification at the hands of other queer women. However, in a lot of cases queer women are bred into a heteronormative lesbian culture where they feel they should be the misogynists, although they probably don’t recognize it as such.
With the recent Gaysi poll and Rainbow Monster’s piece “Lady Gaga, Bollywood Remix & A Disheartened Fan”, both regarding Lady Gaga’s recent desi remix of Born This Way, I felt it was time to articulate here my point of view on Ms. Stefani Germanotta.
Rashmi mentioned to me that a recent episode of Outsourced was particularly troubling, so after I watched it we decided to each write about it. Read Rashmi’s take on the specific episode in her article “Outsourced, I love you no more!” I suppose I have something more along the lines of “Outsourced, I never really loved you”.
My first sexual experience, with my first boyfriend in high school, was brought upon me with coercion. This sexual experience did not happen on my own terms. This doesn’t mean I didn’t eventually enjoy it or that I didn’t still fall head-over-heels for him, but this wasn’t how or when I had wanted it to happen.
The one memory from rush week that stands out the most is from the fondue night. We had the fondue night at one of the sister’s houses and she asked her straight roommates if they wanted any fondue. One of them responded with something along the lines of “ewwww I’m not sharing fondue with y’all and your vagina fingers!” Yes.
Appearance has become such a big part of queer existence and identity for women. Fitting certain check marks on the list of common attire and appearance often helps queer women find each other in the sea of unavailable heterosexuals. The main aspect of appearance I want to talk about is gaysi women’s hair, because I love hair and its complexities fascinate me.
While I tried my hardest to be out and proud during that relationship with a man, I have now realized just how much I was benefiting from the heterosexual privilege. Even though my politics and identity were queer, many straight people treated me with the privileges of a fellow straight person since they saw that I was dating a man.