Archive for authorRashmi

Rashmi grew up in India and now she enjoys her time living in one of the queerest places in the world. She started transitioning a while back and is gradually coming out to people she thinks are cool enough for her. She enjoys discussing any topic under the sun and has an opinion about anything and everything. She thinks of herself as someone who can only hold intelligent conversations with people, when in reality she is totally insane and crazy, not to mention she has been highly hormonal recently. *GRIN*

Gender Bender : The Stay-At-Home Dad

As much as some straight women complain about their husbands laziness to contribute towards their daily chores, which unfortunately I have seen in a few cases, I am seriously wondering if they will be comfortable in living a life with stay-at-home husbands. Will that parents and in-laws stop viewing it in a funny way but rather accept that their son/son-in-law is someone who wants to stay at home and raise a family while their daughter is the one who brings the dough. Will, they be proud to say that he is a stay at home dad by choice and they are comfortable under their skin to accept it as a possible and good choice.

LPGA : Born Female Only Please!

This LPGA tournament is being held at California - a state that has widespread anti-hate and anti-discrimination laws. So should any organization that openly discriminates be allowed to step in and do so?

A Queer’s Professional Life In India

I always thought it wouldn't be too tough for me to come out at my current workplace. Yes, there will be the initial weirdness followed by the weirdness while visiting the restrooms but largely it is a very professional environment and people respect each other and gossip less, at least not very apparently. Given there are statutes against discrimination and the firms in my geographical area are fairly diverse, coming out should not be a big surprise to my company - at least not to the HR and executives.

Bombay Gymkhana : Discriminating Then, Discriminating Now

Earlier in April this year, Indian Trans activist Laxmi Narayan Tripathi, an invitee of the TEDx conference at Mumbai was asked to leave by the Management of the Bombay Gymkhana. All this happened while the conference was in session. As a sign of solidarity several people walked out. Dailies and tabloids wrote about this and everyone screamed at such a blatant act of discrimination. The President of the club just went into hiding, no questions answered. The Management had not expressed any regret; not even a melodramatic half-hearted apology was rendered. Not that it would have made any difference.

Book Review: The Palace of Illusions

Growing up in a conservative Indian household, I was always given examples from the shastras and the epics on how I should live my life. On what the right and the wrong thing was. For some reason dharma was such a favorite word in the family. Except that people did not realise that it was adharmam for showering unsolicited advise on a poor, dreamy-eyed kid.

Gender Stereotypes : The Restroom

Very often, in our lives, we need to make decisions in a split second. We use stereotypes to help us get comfortable with unfamiliar situations - people, things, etc. Stereotype, however can also let us judge stuff without giving the other person a fair chance. When do we draw the line?

Yet An Other Bullying

It is so tragic that a gay student has taken his life off due to bullying and invasion of privacy. Even after years of Mathew Sheppard and countless of registered and unregistered statistics (read suicides, murder... ), many countries and states do not yet have litigation to protect minorities. But isn't this a social problem? How much does it take for someone to respect others' privacy? Why makes assholes do things that are so destructive?

Book Review : Hostel Room 131

Funny, honest and dramatic. A great novel written ever so elegantly. Being my first ever desi queer book,I found it amusing yet knowledgeable. It was cathartic at times and the love amongst the protagonists almost left me in tears. Yet I read it on only to complete it in a straight 72 hrs and with a feeling of "happily ever after".

Gender Stereotypes

Looking androgynous means, I am sir-ed or ma'am-ed and sometimes the pronouns switch in the middle of a sentence and oscillates between.

R Raja Rao on “Hostel Room 131”

The author talks about his new book, as how art and activism are the 2 sides of the same coin and how his "gayness" or rather the reflection of the "gay love story" which is dealt with in this novel has been marketed thus placing the art form related to his creativity and the literature in the background.

Transgender Activism In A Jurists’ Conference

I am so impressed by the use of labels here - Transgenders, Gender Identity, etc. And look at the keywords for this article- "transgender, LGBT rights, alternative sexuality" and the section on related articles. OMG! When did a traditionally left-leaning, filter-coffee-sipping daily from a traditional, conservative city in India come up with such an understanding of a still rather arcane subject. I feel totally proud. Hats off to you Hindu.

Complications of Love

We have been familiar with this verse since the time we were ready for preschool, isn't it? The emphasis of taking care of our parents and the importance they have in our lives , if not apparent to each one of us, have been etched in our minds since childhood. We have always been asked to view them with a larger than life image. We have been told through tearing and painfully slow soap operas and talk shows, how much they have sacrificed in their lives only to see us through. As if we kids have a Ghajini-like memory. Yet the Indian society finds it a necessity to establish this as a responsibility. Wouldn't filial love be enough for us to take care of them in their senile ages?

Gay Marriage in Nepal

Ditch California, you do not even need a visa to get married in Nepal. What impresses me is a country that is as conservative as ours has actually legalized the marriage while we still struggle for acceptance here.

Cali Rulez : No On Prop 8

The most important aspect is the defeat of the bigots - the diabolical plot pitched in by the FLDS and the Catholics and the NOM and all the other homophobic morons to basically negate a fundamental right of 2 human beings.

Walking Through THAT Book Aisle

At a coffee shop, an Indian dad whom I think is visiting his son & grand kids was staring at me for a whole minute. All this when I was sitting in a corner enjoying my coffee and reading my book. For a second, I felt like a total weirdo. A minute longer, I would have called the cops. Please people, don't stare!

Interview : Theatre Artist, Deen

It took me a long time -- and a very special transgender man in India -- to show me that I could be a gentle guy. The ten year journey to that revelation, though, was filled with deep self-loathing, denial, anger, fear -- so much fear -- and also great love.

The Miseducation of Angel Clark

Isn't it necessary that when journalists pen an article they do enough research? Or at the very least they educate themselves with the topic they are writing about? This article is totally trans-misogynistic and is so bigoted, it has BullS$%^ written all over

The Bisexual Dilemma

I have observed something (even in the Q community) – that when someone says they are “Queer”, people just assume they are “gay”. This was much more on my face …

Same Sex Immigration

I wanted to share this article that appeared in a daily newspaper recently that shares the ordeal of the countless Queer couples who are tackling their fight against society – …

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