All the trials and tribulations made me a stronger Indian woman. Despite all the clichés people may associate with pageants and the idea of feminine Desi women, through Miss India I was able to stand proudly as a dignified, educated, Indian woman who understands how my heritage and culture empowers my identity. As time goes on, there is an increasing visibility for feminine lesbians. Sometimes people are less likely to assume we are gay because of stereotypes associated with gay women.
I know I know…MJ announcing a Valentines Special *anything* is as good as BJP-Shiv Sena collation promising a corruption free existence in Mumbai in the upcoming BMC elections.
Two months later, after many sleepless nights and hard work devoted to the project and teaching everything I knew about sexual variance to my group members, the presentations began. The first group presented theirs on Media, Sex, and Violence. Interestingly enough, they quoted Homosexuality to be one of the “main negative effects” of media today, because it "projects it as positive, when it's clearly an abnormality." They also talked about how the APA (American Psychological Association) still views homosexuality as a mental disorder (which in fact has not been the case since 1973), and how it was sad that the media was propagating that it was normal.
My Blog is fairly new and since I’m so busy with studies these days, I don’t really get a chance to update it as often as I’d like and thus publicize it. This is the reason I haven’t really faced any opposition to my blog posts yet, but I’m sure it’s only a matter of time. I have faced a lot of opposition to my “public” posts on Facebook regarding homosexuality. They’ve always been very Islam-centric, and talking to them at a time when I wasn’t too familiar with what the Quran said on these topics, wasn’t the smartest thing to do. But I suppose it all turned out well since it made me do a lot more research and get familiar with what the Quran says and find more liberal interpretations of the only verse in the Quran that talks about homosexuality.
Editor's note: In our New Year post, we promised to bring new views and stories from our brethren in the subcontinent, outside India. A new contributor, Rangeelidastan interviews Sadaf Mujeeb, a young Pakistani activist and straight ally, exclusively for Gaysi Family. Sadaf describes herself as a rights activist which "includes but is not limited to, Human Rights; LGBT rights, religious and ethnic minority rights, and women rights, and of course non-human animal rights". Rangeelidastan says, "Despite the numerous pressures Sadaf has had to face, she is steadfast in her support for LGBT rights. Her determination to do what is right and change mindsets through facts and reasoning are inspirational for all LGBT/human rights activists everywhere."
In the beginning when I came out they were angry but slowly slowly they were ok and now currently they all are fine with it. But on the other hand, my mom still thinks that this is a disease and one day I’ll become normal. (Straight)
Debjyoti Ghosh is a Human Rights Lawyer, who has been into Marginalized people's Rights Activism for the last five years. He has just completed his LLM in Human Rights with an International Justice Specialization, and is looking forward to plunging back into activism.
“Because even the best can sometimes be sloppy” - Well, this pretty much explains how I botched up a simply brilliant Podcast date with one of India’s awesomest Queer celebrity, a couple of weeks ago.
Thankfully I have been fortune not to experience homophobia first hand. But have heard friend (not the ones I am out to) pass snide comments about LGBT community in general though.
Undeterred by media misrepresentation and pressure from the so-called moral police, a group of young individuals are getting ready to showcase Queer Lifestyle by exploring multiple mediums of Art (photography, painting, drawing, installation, sculpture, video, etc.)
Aks – Reflections of Queer Hyderabad is first of it’s kind in the city and one hope’s it would inspire many more to embrace their sexuality without fear and hesitation. Here’s a quick chat with Andy Silveira, one of the key role player behind upcoming show.
Tappy Tippy documents the Q&A over Skype that followed with the film maker who woke up in the wee hours of a Sunday morning to answer a handful of questions.
The evening started with a quick registration...introduction...badge pick up etc. and a paper with the "Royal palace" Protocol sheet...! A list of conduct and communication practices with 'his highness'...rather hilarious and kinda ticked off some of the reporters present there..!
I was second in line to have my '5 min' rendezvous with him...I stretched it to 8...
Relationships are all about communication. We don’t leave things for the other person to guess. We speak our minds and don’t prolong an argument beyond a certain point. We have set our priorities of our professions, parents and life. Both of us understand and appreciate the other person’s view point. We also have great friends, mix of straight & gay, who make our life nicer.
We as a board also realize that we have a lot of work to do before we've fulfilled our commitment to being a safe and welcoming environment for all in our community, and so it's exciting that we are able to launch this meaningful resource in our 20th year of existence as an organization.
Take heart, you’re not alone. Be gentle with yourself and patient with others. Ask for help when you need it. Find good friends and be good to them. But most of all, love yourself. You are infinitely lovable. It’s not about whether your Mom loves you or even if your partner loves you — it’s about whether you love yourself.
The "Transgender/Ally" web page is a resource for folks who are struggling with their gender, for friends and family who want to be supportive but aren't sure what's going on, and for community members who want to be allies but don't know how yet. That's the primary purpose of the web page.
"I was raised in a classic patriarchal, machismo environment and was under the impression that homosexuality was a perversion" says Bharat Balan, whose sister Anita Balan is a lesbian. He was the first person in the family to whom Anita chose to come out. She initially came out to him as a bisexual, as she thought it would make things easier for Bharat.
"It was a huge shock! I couldn't believe that it was happening to my family.It was very difficult for us to accept." Rekha Shah remembers the day when her daughter Amy Shah came out as lesbian, a decade ago. Rekha and her husband always wondered why Amy was not interested in dating boys, but weren't really prepared to hear that Amy was a lesbian.
Amy Shah and Amanda Pyron are partners in an interracial same sex relationship in the United States. Amy is a first generation Indian-American, her parents are Gujarati. Amy and Amanda have a 19 month son, Evan. Ms. Shah and Ms. Pyron had a commitment ceremony in Chicago in 2007 and later obtained legal domestic partner status in Washington, DC.
Priya had so much fun marching. "I was very excited and happy to be part of Chennai's first pride march. I wanted to show to my brother and the rest of the world, how much I support him. I wanted to show people that simple gestures like this from family member mean a lot to our gay brothers & sons".