"I was raised in a classic patriarchal, machismo environment and was under the impression that homosexuality was a perversion" says Bharat Balan, whose sister Anita Balan is a lesbian. He was the first person in the family to whom Anita chose to come out. She initially came out to him as a bisexual, as she thought it would make things easier for Bharat.
"It was a huge shock! I couldn't believe that it was happening to my family.It was very difficult for us to accept." Rekha Shah remembers the day when her daughter Amy Shah came out as lesbian, a decade ago. Rekha and her husband always wondered why Amy was not interested in dating boys, but weren't really prepared to hear that Amy was a lesbian.
Amy Shah and Amanda Pyron are partners in an interracial same sex relationship in the United States. Amy is a first generation Indian-American, her parents are Gujarati. Amy and Amanda have a 19 month son, Evan. Ms. Shah and Ms. Pyron had a commitment ceremony in Chicago in 2007 and later obtained legal domestic partner status in Washington, DC.
Priya had so much fun marching. "I was very excited and happy to be part of Chennai's first pride march. I wanted to show to my brother and the rest of the world, how much I support him. I wanted to show people that simple gestures like this from family member mean a lot to our gay brothers & sons".
The biggest challenge is just figuring out how to be together. We started in a long distance relationship with her in Dubai and me here in India; now she's here and I'm here, but there's always my visa to consider. It'd be the same if Queen came to the US, just in reverse.
Legally recognized marriages between same-sex couples will have a transformative impact not just on the lives of the couples themselves but also on our society. Achieving marriage equality at the federal level is a non-negotiable for both of us.
We got married at the Seattle Aquarium. We had 155 guests. Mala’s sister officiated, Mala’s mother performed an Aarati and Vega's father read a poem he’d written for the occasion. We also managed to engage the services of a local pundit to perform the ceremony itself.
I do not believe in tags or labels as sexuality is fluid . You can like apples one day and then one fine day discover oranges are better. Currently from many years now, I have been into men – so you can call me gay if need be.
I'm a performance artist, producer, and Creatrix of Awesome based in Brisbane, Australia. I combine burlesque, circus, improv, streetntheatre, physical theatre, spoken word, and a variety of other artforms to talk about my experiences and politics as a female queer migrant minority (child of Bangladeshi migrants born & raised in Malaysia).
MissZero and Gingey. M-zee is the gaysi half, the Gingey is the self-described “white half”. She claims iridescence in the dark, and M-zee confirms this.
It’s not a black and white question. I was confused, sure. But personally, I never had qualms about it. When I am definite that I want something then I make it explicit, but before that I have to search every corner inside me to know that I want it. Be it my sushi or my lover.
After that first awkward meeting, we got to know each other and became friends.
I've become more self confident in dealing with the 'sexuality' subject and marriage related queries. I think they're getting to feel and perceive the adult in me.
Isn't time that we meet Mrs. & Mrs. Smita? Isn't time
that we listen to the romantic story "When Hari met Sreeni"? Don't
you want to know how our Dilwala, Dulha le gaya? Don't you want to
hear Sanjana's story "Mein Preeti ki Diwaani hoon"?
I have suffered all my life, staying in the closet, hiding who I am. I cant do that anymore, so I said no to the policy. As of today, I don't have a relationship with my family. I still hope my folks will come around or at least meet me in the middle someday.
An anonymous person messaged all my batch mates in college that I was lesbian. This was then forwarded to everyone I knew as part of a news flash message campaign by my batch mates. A poll along with my photograph was also put up on the orkut page of my college to vote if I was lesbian or not.
I first came out to them when I was 19. For almost a year I had been dropping hints and when confronted I came out to them as a gay celibate person. It climaxed when I made them watch the NDTV show “Chennai Speaks out”.
QueerCampus India was started as a collective, with the aim of providing a support space for queer youth. Over time we have formed some alliances with colleges and members will be conducting sexuality trainings. The primary aim of the group however is to create a bi-weekly meeting space for queer youth, where they can feel free to express themselves, talk about sexuality, coming out, relationships, the colleges they attend and so on.
He asked a direct question, and got a direct ‘yes’! Next thing I know, he wrote a mail to the Director about allotting batches, and addressed me as ‘Mridul’ and ‘he’ (since all my papers are in my formal name and designated gender, that’s how all my new employers always begin knowing me). The Director just asked a handful of questions about how comfortable I would be, getting officially addressed as Mridul and Sir (by students), and when he saw me confident – he just sent out a mail telling everyone about my decision and that he expected matured cooperation from all!
Not before I was sure myself. I am a survivor of child sexual abuse, so linked my sexuality to abuse, so was confused for a long long time. Though I felt sexual towards men, I never acknowledged myself as gay. Finally, I tried having a one night stand with a woman, but it didn't stand. That's when I realized that I should stand up for what I feel innately without attributing it to anything. I didn't want to live a life that the world wants me to. I didn't want to live a lie.