We learned to communicate and not be afraid of difficult topics. Even though we have our fights and disagreements, our lives fit seamlessly together.
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Opinion & Personal Stories
Opinion & personal stories category consists of random thoughts, viewpoints and experiences of Gaysis (and supporters) about the world around them.
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Happy Birthday Lady Gaga
I wish you the happiest birthday ever. Maybe next year I will wish you an ever-happier birthday!!
Interview : The Mr. Quirky, Harish Iyer
Whoring for a cause is something that all of us should engage in, though the flip side is that people would brand you as using the cause for getting famous.
The Lab
Enter the dark corridors, filled with masculinity, men with hard-ons, semi-erections, fucked-up arses, lubed-up arses, rubbered dicks, noses sniffing poppers and other addictive substances, slippery warm penises entering raging intestines and mouths, hands groping all over the place – nipples, butts, muscles, hair, mouths, feet, balls, name it, you have it.
It Is Okay To Be Queer
Because this lovely lady asked for our opinion on one of her reader’s plight, and the generous soul that I am who believes in parting with information even when …
Dharun Ravi : Punished for Being An Immigrant
Congratulations gay people. We’ve arrived. If someone bullies or intimidates us and we take our lives as a result of their douche-bagery, we can rest assured that they will be convicted of bias-intimdiation and possibly, sentenced harshly. And in the case of Dharun Ravi, also face deportation to a country that he probably does not remember. I hope everyone is happy that justice has been served.
Aam Gaysi : I Was A Big Homophobe
My ex girlfriend who was apparently straight and was always discreet about our relationship always introduced me to her friends/family as her “Gay Best Friend”. At first I was pretty cool about it but after a certain point it was one of the major reasons for our break up.
I Never Asked To Be Born This Way.
In the past 4 months, I’ve been to three weddings. Each one of them unfailingly sent me spiralling into a personal crisis of sorts and left me on the verge of completely breaking down. In spite of being amongst hundreds of people, I’ve never felt this left out and so very alone. And each time, I was filled with this sadness and utter dejection because the potential of being rejected by everyone close to me became very real very quickly.
Brown and Gay
For the most part South Asians are not the most comfortable talking about sex and sexuality. Is it because we aren’t having any? Funny, I didn’t think the Kama Sutra was for coffee table reading, nor did I think that population of India surpassed a billion through abstinence. Yet we shy away from these discussions, push them into a category of shame and turn a blind eye.
Bullying Within the Queer Community
As a society, we’re more focused than ever on making sure that bullying on the basis of gender or sexual orientation isn’t harming queer kids the way it has in the past. Lots of anti-bullying campaigns focus on the fact that once a kid is out of high school, they get to be a lot more selective in the people they hang out with, and as a result, they escape from a lot of the bullying. But is high school really where that level of bullying ends?
Fisking Firdaus
In a “wildly” convoluted essay, Firdous contends that maybe allowing homosexuals their rights will lead to the destruction of the world as we know it. Never being the one for open letters, I’ll just use this as feedstock for sarcasm.
Think For Yourself. Or Please Shut The Fuck Up.
It’s simple, really. The world wasn’t created for the benefit of just one person. We co-exist. Just as you won’t find two tigers with matching stripes, you won’t find two people with the same preferences. You’d think after so many years of existence, people would’ve learnt to tolerate each other’s differences. But looks like that’s too much to expect from a species that considers itself the most intelligent of all.
What Happens To Gay Relationships & Affairs
The first draft of this rant was interrupted too. Thanks to ‘his’ plans to go out for a movie, a quick dinner and maybe a nap? But sorry, the movie didn’t happen since he only has one bicycle, and I have none. And we’re too late to use public transport to get to a place 2 kilometers away. Damn!
You & I
She was all things Grey. In between a yes and no, unsure of left or right, in nor out. The only thing fun about all this was that she was never bored. The inner arguments and the vacillations kept her occupied for hours. Sometimes days. Free of guile and pretenses, what you saw was what you wished you got. But she seldom gave in. intimidating only if you didn’t know her, but then you never really could know her, for she didn’t want to be known. But one day, every thread was unraveled, un-done until all that remained was nothing.
Interview : Author, Vivek Shraya
I feel like everyday the book surprises me. Last year it was nominated for a Lambda Literary Award and was picked up by several post-secondary institutions as a text book. Consequently, the first run sold out in just a little over a year and I am currently getting ready for the release of the second edition which features a new story and illustration.
Interview : Miss Congeniality, Kashish Chopra (Part 2)
It is easy to plan the “perfect date,” but it is hard to have the perfect date. To me a perfect date isn’t about what we do but rather about how we do it. The best dates are the ones that organically plan and reveal themselves.
I have planned and been on of lot of dates that were meant to be “perfect” and usually everything that could possibly go wrong did. I’m pretty low maintenance but my perfect date is all about the feeling behind it and who it is with – not what the date is.
Interview : Miss Congeniality, Kashish Chopra (Part 1)
All the trials and tribulations made me a stronger Indian woman. Despite all the clichés people may associate with pageants and the idea of feminine Desi women, through Miss India I was able to stand proudly as a dignified, educated, Indian woman who understands how my heritage and culture empowers my identity. As time goes on, there is an increasing visibility for feminine lesbians. Sometimes people are less likely to assume we are gay because of stereotypes associated with gay women.
The Valentine’s Day Bail Out
For those of you who were too busy star gazing or cow herding and forgot that it is Valentine’s Day, worry not! I am here to present you with some fantastic last minute gift ideas, date scenarios and relationship advice.
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Chicklet – Ill do some Asian recipes soon.
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MJ – what do you mean by Diet (Quick)? If you mean light, then these recipes...
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The Cookboy
Beautifully written. Really enjoyed reading this.
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zENAWordWarrior
Sweet! Now I need my CookGirl!
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With such economy of language, you say...
Loved this! Thanks for sharing
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Chicklet
I’m definitely gonna try this and get perfect before i meet her again…...
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fantastic. mistake overturned = lesson learned ! looking forward to reading more from...
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Chicklet
Love is a strange whirl, isn’t ? i call it a fool’s paradise!
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