first time I put a dress on
no, not a dress shirt!
it had polka dots and flower pots
a ribbon at the back
to accentuate the waist
or cut lunch some slack
Are you wondering why I am talking about gender and sex? Like you do now, I too had many questions, curiosities and anxieties about gender and sex.
The closet was made
Of charming mahogany
Made with the blood
Of a conservative household
Sacrifices of the heartless
Where we actually are in the UK; part hiding, part free – looking over our shoulder before we kiss. As I glanced back at the other people in the cinema, a million miles away from us… fear someone would see me cuddling a girl was acute.
I once asked her what she identified as. She proceeded to tell me that while she identified as pansexual, she chose to tell people she was bisexual. At the time, this was a little tough for me to understand. However, over time, I began to understand why she did it.
Classrooms are supposed to be safe spaces that allow everyone to learn, socialize and innovate. Let me tell you that none of that applies to most classrooms.
Under tremendous pressure to find a suitable partner for myself, I finally took the plunge and created my profile on a popular gay dating app.
When you - a straight person - visit a therapist, they won’t assume that all your problems stem from your sexuality. They are not going to confront you saying that “That bi thing you’re doing” is wrong and that you should stop being bi.
Over the past 2 years, I have learned more about the community's needs. My space has been acknowledged and my voice encouraged.
Nodding to people I am not listening
In front of her, I dream of her
I wish I had more teachers in my life who could have helped me in coming to terms with my identity. I wish I had more reliable sources and books within my access instead of having to search for things with no direction on the Internet.
I just know that if I do not take part in dismantling blocks of power that shouts oppression
Then I become one of them too
There is no neutral in the war
What does it mean for men to embrace feminism? What does it mean when we ask for a feminist masculinity?
I remember feeling like I was choking, the nervousness and anxiety squeezing my stomach. I felt physically unable to move, but kept up a positive front.
Recently in the wake of #metoo India I'd been thinking a lot about the violence we visit upon each other.
Sexuality and gender are fluid and ever-evolving. They grow with you and evolve as your thoughts, ideals, and beliefs evolve. My own experiences followed the same process of evolution.
She was born in the year 93 on a wintry morning inside a private hospital ward. She has no recollection of that day. Her grandma would tell her, “Your dad and I both jumped with joy when the nurse told us, ‘It’s a boy”.
Since childhood, I have gone through several phases in which I have assumed numerous labels trying to define my sexuality.
Upon hearing the clicking of the car door, I am startled, frightened even. But oh, it's just this one person I dote on. With furrowed brows and curiosity in their eyes, they sit beside me.
Can feelings of comfort and safety come in the form of a person?