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Desis and Queer Hair

Posted by misszero on Aug 15 2010 at 5:43 pm

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    misszero

    So...I've had those typical Indian long, luscious locks pretty much all my life, with the exception of one terrible bowl cut in the 5th grade, and a bob I got last fall, which I had to justify to everyone as being because I wanted to donate the hair I cut off to Locks of Love. Which was something I cared about, but it was annoying having to explain to every Aunty who lamented over the loss.

    My issue now is that as I've become increasingly more comfortable with my queerness and now that I'm not living at home (thank god for my university being an hour and a half away from home!), I'm significantly more tempted to chop my hair off, and go for the pixie cut. Or maybe even shave my head. I'm ready for a change, a big one, but I don't think I'm ready to face how society deals with women who don't look incredibly feminine - especially how Indian society will deal with it.

    I'm not out to a single desi besides my parents, and their reaction was less than favorable. Essentially, their biggest fear was "someone finding out" - and I feel like a short haircut would really upset them.

    Have any of you tried out stereotypical "dyke" hair? Any suggestions on what to say to my parents and/or pesky aunties? I need some gaysi advice :)

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    Rashmi

    While I my wishes are in contrast to yours :) I will still give you some free advice :D
    Tell them you are going for the Falguni Pathak or a Jamie Lee Curtis look (http://www.imdb.com/media/rm3573783040/nm0000130 ). You can mention how busy you are that you cannot do justice to maintaining your locks while at school given how frizzy it becomes because of the Indian humidity and heat.
    Frankly, do as you please. The society is just a collection of ideas and it is very malleable. Plus, you would never know until you try that you might be the inspiration to the 1000 other college women out there who want to make this change too.
    Cheers!

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    MJ

    Why worry yaar "yeh toh ghar ki khethi hai"....will grow back. :D

    My folks on the other hand were always in for a shocker; a tattoo one after another...body piercing, a scooter...don't think I would have tolerated a child like me. :D

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    Jane Doe

    I've been bald (thrice), had varying lengths of hair, including a faux hawk and different sorts of hairdos which have been themed "dykish".
    Tell them its not permanent anyway, and since you can't do any of this shit when you start working (which I assume you aren't) now's the time. I also have a tattoo and multiple piercings.
    And yes, I'm glad I did it all, it earned me quite the following. :D

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    LaVidaLoca

    I have had varying length of hair as well but never the pixie cut. Don't think it will suit me.
    As it is said before, it's only hair! It will grow back! Now is the time to experiment. Once you start working, especially in an industry like mine(health care) that might not work.

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    bluesky

    I've had some changes in the length of my hair over the years. I've had long hair, medium length hair and once I had a boy cut that my parents thought would suit me. I don't have much expertise but maybe say you're looking for something new and different because you're starting a new phase in your life or like others said a new hair cut before you start work or something like that. That cutting your short and regrowing it makes the hair better. I know not that helpful but that's all ive got to offer..

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    Broom

    I've had everything from a bald head (albeit for religious reasons - which is funny since I'm now an atheist) to lovely long hair.

    I found that being bald was quite an experience - I wouldn't do it again though. I really missed having hair! Also when you want to grow it back, you go through various awkward phases.

    Long hair is great because of how much you can do with it.

    I'd totally get a butch looking cut, if it would suit me. But I find that I look fatter with short hair.

    I'd say go for what you like - who gives a damn what people think?!

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    tink

    I always wore my hair super-short. My mum thought it was the most convenient as we were growing up and I just left it like that later. However, oddly, since coming out I've felt like growing it out and now have shoulder length hair that I'm constantly combing, brushing and doing up. So oddly, I've come to connect my wavy, floaty, well mid-length hair with my being a lesbian and wouldn't go for a dyke cut only because well, that's what I had when I was still trying hard to be straight! :D

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    Anurag

    I cut my hair off when I first came out and I regretted it. It was nice to not look like the typical straight desi girl for a change, but I also felt like I was deserting my culture. It felt like I was trying to blend in with the white queer people, and I didn't like that. I am trying to grow my hair back but it is growing really slowly :(

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