I was confused for the longest time because I used to think that there are just gay boys/girls and heterosexual boys/girls. I did not know about bisexuality until class 9th.
I clearly remember when I first dreamed about a family. It was the day I read about WHO report and how homosexuality is not a mental disorder. Sitting in my bedroom I decided that I will get married to a guy, have a small house, have kid/s and a pet (mostly dog), and will live happily ever after.
It was a Wednesday morning, I was eating my breakfast before I had to leave for work, and my mom came to me and asked, out of the blue, if I had ever been harassed for being gay.
first time I put a dress on
no, not a dress shirt!
it had polka dots and flower pots
a ribbon at the back
to accentuate the waist
or cut lunch some slack
Are you wondering why I am talking about gender and sex? Like you do now, I too had many questions, curiosities and anxieties about gender and sex.
The closet was made
Of charming mahogany
Made with the blood
Of a conservative household
Sacrifices of the heartless
Where we actually are in the UK; part hiding, part free – looking over our shoulder before we kiss. As I glanced back at the other people in the cinema, a million miles away from us… fear someone would see me cuddling a girl was acute.
I once asked her what she identified as. She proceeded to tell me that while she identified as pansexual, she chose to tell people she was bisexual. At the time, this was a little tough for me to understand. However, over time, I began to understand why she did it.
Here are accounts of body shaming faced by queer desis in different walks of their lives with different people- some close, some not very close.
When you - a straight person - visit a therapist, they won’t assume that all your problems stem from your sexuality. They are not going to confront you saying that “That bi thing you’re doing” is wrong and that you should stop being bi.
I wish I had more teachers in my life who could have helped me in coming to terms with my identity. I wish I had more reliable sources and books within my access instead of having to search for things with no direction on the Internet.
A majority of people are always interested in “that Pride Parade” but very rarely would they have a completely normal reaction to you being in any kind of relationship that is not a monogamous, heterosexual one; the only kind society completely accepts.
What does it mean for men to embrace feminism? What does it mean when we ask for a feminist masculinity?
The institution of privilege is very important in understanding the entire discussion of navigating through caste-oppressed queer identities today.
Recently in the wake of #metoo India I'd been thinking a lot about the violence we visit upon each other.
Sexuality and gender are fluid and ever-evolving. They grow with you and evolve as your thoughts, ideals, and beliefs evolve. My own experiences followed the same process of evolution.
If straight means uniformity, mainstream, non-deviant, symmetry even, then what adjectives will you use for someone who identifies as queer, for example?
She was born in the year 93 on a wintry morning inside a private hospital ward. She has no recollection of that day. Her grandma would tell her, “Your dad and I both jumped with joy when the nurse told us, ‘It’s a boy”.
Upon hearing the clicking of the car door, I am startled, frightened even. But oh, it's just this one person I dote on. With furrowed brows and curiosity in their eyes, they sit beside me.
As part of this study, a survey was conducted based on a sample size of 46 closeted queer Indians, between the ages of 16 to 25, to understand the nature of suppression of identity, how they believed it affected their personality development and what views they had regarding safety in the workspace.