I once asked her what she identified as. She proceeded to tell me that while she identified as pansexual, she chose to tell people she was bisexual. At the time, this was a little tough for me to understand. However, over time, I began to understand why she did it.
Here are accounts of body shaming faced by queer desis in different walks of their lives with different people- some close, some not very close.
When you - a straight person - visit a therapist, they won’t assume that all your problems stem from your sexuality. They are not going to confront you saying that “That bi thing you’re doing” is wrong and that you should stop being bi.
I wish I had more teachers in my life who could have helped me in coming to terms with my identity. I wish I had more reliable sources and books within my access instead of having to search for things with no direction on the Internet.
A majority of people are always interested in “that Pride Parade” but very rarely would they have a completely normal reaction to you being in any kind of relationship that is not a monogamous, heterosexual one; the only kind society completely accepts.
What does it mean for men to embrace feminism? What does it mean when we ask for a feminist masculinity?
The institution of privilege is very important in understanding the entire discussion of navigating through caste-oppressed queer identities today.
Recently in the wake of #metoo India I'd been thinking a lot about the violence we visit upon each other.
Sexuality and gender are fluid and ever-evolving. They grow with you and evolve as your thoughts, ideals, and beliefs evolve. My own experiences followed the same process of evolution.
If straight means uniformity, mainstream, non-deviant, symmetry even, then what adjectives will you use for someone who identifies as queer, for example?
She was born in the year 93 on a wintry morning inside a private hospital ward. She has no recollection of that day. Her grandma would tell her, “Your dad and I both jumped with joy when the nurse told us, ‘It’s a boy”.
Upon hearing the clicking of the car door, I am startled, frightened even. But oh, it's just this one person I dote on. With furrowed brows and curiosity in their eyes, they sit beside me.
As part of this study, a survey was conducted based on a sample size of 46 closeted queer Indians, between the ages of 16 to 25, to understand the nature of suppression of identity, how they believed it affected their personality development and what views they had regarding safety in the workspace.
At the unexpectedness of my bluntness
And ask me how can I know
About the constantly negotiating
Measurements in your head.
However, being an Indian, I was most immediately affected by the character and development of Kala, a Mumbai based pharmacist. While other characters deal with a complex past, violence, prison and its threat, homophobia, gang wars and poverty, the main conflict in Kala's life is marriage to her boss's son.
of long-lost diaries
pages spilled with secrets
for me to devour.
Restless thoughts were lingering on in my mind and I wanted to approach and talk to them. Because of the common attitude towards transgender people, I was shying away from them.
The depiction of queer relationships in media works as an agent of social sexualization and is particularly more influential in the Indian society where sex is not discussed, even for educative purposes.
As we grow up, from childhood to adulthood, we have several phases– just because one phase is over, does not mean it didn't exist.
Shals Mahajan, a writer, and a queer feminist fellow who lives in Bombay had to withdraw from a Children’s Writing Festival they were invited to because the organisers of the fest did not approve of the bio they submitted.