Since I have the perfect credentials and a clean heart to get away with it, my dear ladies, I present to you a handy list of lesbian guidelines
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What constitutes cheating? I’ve wondered about this ever since the discussion around the campfire in the L Word. And I’ve realized that for a lot of people, sleeping with someone else is the first and last straw. I think this is very interesting. Because this begs a very simple question: are emotional and mental faithfulness not as important?
In a previous post I mentioned that my internship is at a youth detention center. The youth started voicing that they wanted to learn about “my culture” and I figured they didn’t want to learn about England so I took it straight back to the motherland. I spent time telling them about India and joked with the other staff in the room that I should show them a Bollywood movie.
“Because even the best can sometimes be sloppy” – Well, this pretty much explains how I botched up a simply brilliant Podcast date with one of India’s awesomest Queer celebrity, a couple of weeks ago.
Sex Toys – Have you tried them?
During this quest for a BFF, I had this one conversation with my Buddy, which changed everything. I don’t remember clearly what sparked that conversation. But I remember discussing gay and lesbian relationships. And how normal it felt and how neither of us agreed with the stigma attached to it. Maybe it was my rebellious 14-year old speaking, but it was my first conversation about LGBT and it was like any other chat with The Buddy. And I just knew then, that I would be attracted to a person, not their gender identity. Just like The Buddy felt too (or so I thought).
Ashu. Gaunt features, a fair skin that accentuated his eye-brows and uneven spread of facial hair, Peshwa ‘Bali’ on his left ear’s cartilage, some uneven teeth across luscious, yet sort …
The event Desiring Indians was a screening of the provocative film Cain/Cane (2011) followed by a panel discussion on sexuality, intimacy, and desire among Indian South Africans, chaired by Prof. …
Back then I was fascinated with car rides. She had a white santro. I would rush out of work to ask her for a lift, even if it meant changing in two minutes and running down five floors in twenty seconds. I did it every day. And on the days I missed her I hated myself. I was enamored by her.
There are times when I look at my girlfriend and realize…I could marry this girl. Not just because I adore weddings. Not just because we’re still in what could be considered the early U-Haul stage of our relationship. But just because she feels so incredibly right. We’ve been through our rough patches – hell, I thought for sure that we weren’t going to make it as little as 2 or 3 months ago – but every time we’ve hit a set-back, we’ve somehow come out stronger.
Amidst all the noise, all the crowd and all that hypocrisy, I saw you and I saw a cigarette fall.
Boys getting drunk, dirty dancing, sex on the floor.
The Sexuality Rating Scale, aka “Kinsey Scale,” was developed by Alfred Kinsey and his colleagues in 1948. The most commonly known heterosexuality is rated at zero and homosexuality (same sex …
See, it’s not like I wanted a cozy little box with a clearly defined label that I could comfortably fold myself into. I’ve always disliked labels. But nevertheless, I was curious. Curious to know which category or stereotype I fall under simply because they exist and they seem to be reference points for our community. But the problem was, the conventional ones made me extremely uncomfortable.
In all the discourse around colorism, it always comes up that South Asian heterosexual men and South Asian heterosexual women find each other less attractive or worthy of a relationship and marriage the darker their skin. This sometimes leads to the conversation of South Asian heterosexual men having a preference for White women (remember “Rock n Roll Soniye”?). My question is, of course, where do queer people fall into all of this? While my discussion of the exoticism of South Asian queer women focused of White queer women’s treatment of South Asian queer women, my intent here is to highlight dynamics that play within the South Asian community.
Dealing with parents, siblings and other family members is a major part of being a Gaysi. We can and often do, spend our entire lives explaining our sexuality, convincing them that it is part of who we are and seeking their approval. It is not easy!
Threesomes – Good, Bad, Ugly… What do you think?
And now in honour of Sexy Editor’s return from the sun dripped trenches of …wherever it is that she went on holiday….We proudly present Part 2!!! Yes! Part 2 of our Coming Out Podcast!
At the start of this summer I started the final internship for my Master of Social Work program. I’m placed at the youth detention center where I anticipated the opportunity to work with minority youth, however I wasn’t sure if I was going to need to or be able to advocate for queer youth in the system.
Same deal as last time, ladies. Awesome songs by awesome artists, and queer artists get asterisks next to their names. Check it out!