I am 25, single as single can be and still struggle to gather the courage and let that cute guy next door know I really really really really really really really like him!
On the occasion of the International Day against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia celebrated this month, Gaysi asked 6 drag queens to narrate their experiences with Transphobia while they performed.
From the corner of her lazy eye she caught sight of a pile of cucumbers stacked away among raw tubers of all shapes. The perfect summer vegetable. Or fruit?
While most cis-straight folk in our country are probably not referring to tone deaf dissertations to raise their kids, Indian parents have always seemed to follow a subconscious code to reinforce gender and cis-heterosexual contexts.
The worst of it all came when someone told me bisexual erasure is fake
I transitioned when I was 18, so living as a woman for the last ten years has mostly eliminated the dysphoria I had from being pigeonholed into a male role, but I still have a strong sense of dysphoria about certain aspects of my body.
And I am sure, every lesbian who reads this post can right now be sighing in frustration; frustration which frankly nobody else is going to empathize with.
The presence of someone queer has always been powerful. This is not just because the individual is or was powerful, but also because the difference that they bring to the standard ways of life.
In my 27 years of existence, I’ve embodied various personas and roles. Even today, I behave slightly differently in the office, around parents, at a party and when I’m alone in my room.
While stereotypes have a foundation, not all lesbians look the same, or fit into the same categories.
I talked to an approximate of 20 people I like to call friends. For research purposes, people particularly between the ages of 21-28, belonging to different economic and professional backgrounds and of varying genders. What I found out disheartened me to no extent.
The media coverage of this incident has been cruel, to say the least, towards the queer community.
I could feel her hands on the small of my back, longing to feel the rest of me, but hesitant.
Passing is something that all binary and many non-binary trans people contend with, often on a daily basis.
The fact that these students were forced to 'own up' to their feelings almost points out to the fact that instead of supporting and aiding the growth of the child, schools now focus on what is 'moral' and 'immoral'.
Searching about a public place, known by word of mouth, in pursuit of a partner for sex, and the good and bad that follows, are the lived experiences of nearly every gay man in India- married, closeted, young and hopeful.
Being a feminist doesn't end at respecting women. Growing up in this world, we've all internalized some toxic misogynistic behaviors without realizing it.
And then, I saw her for the first time…On a railway station in the midnight, her heading off to marry her love; I knew we were in it together for the long haul.
I wonder how you feel right now,
In the arms of another comfort,
In tandem, resonant.
From a young age I learned that the world thought it knew who I was better than myself. Racism is many things, but part of it is a crisis of imagination.