My parents, on the other hand, were overjoyed that their daughter found a partner that they wouldn’t have to hide from the Indian community. You’d think him being white, an atheist, and having a kid would be the typical Indian parent’s nightmare, but all that seems like nothing compared to the possibility of me being with a woman… well not completely “nothing”.
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Posts tagged - Relationships
Gay Marriage (Or Why A Divorcee Wants To Tie The Knot Again)
Having been married (to a man) and then going through a traumatic divorce, I know first hand that marriage does not in any way, shape or form guarantee ‘happily ever after’. So do I still want the right to marry? The short answer is: Yes.
R Raja Rao on “Hostel Room 131″
The author talks about his new book, as how art and activism are the 2 sides of the same coin and how his “gayness” or rather the reflection of the “gay love story” which is dealt with in this novel has been marketed thus placing the art form related to his creativity and the literature in the background.
Legal: Part 2 (Present)
*Based on partially true events
6 years later…
The Present: London. I was tired. A red eye flight from Chicago had me running on two hours of sleep. The past few months had been exhausting. A conference in London meant…
Book Sham-e-Raah : Where Have You Left
Owais is a Bhopal-based author and poet, whose book of Urdu poetry called Sham-e-raah was published in 2002. While the book has the Hindi translations of the poems, here are Hanif saab’s translations of the poems in English. The book is several pages long, and we’ve approached another translator – a blogger if you must know – to translate some more of these poems. So these translations will come up every now and then.
The Betrayed Gay Lover Story With A Twist
Many gay persons have probably been left by their partners for people of the opposite sex, much like the subject of this piece of news. But our Mr. X went one step further and filed a case against his former partner, Y.
Personal Lubricants : Slip Slop Slap
Funny in a time when the ever so resourceful internet is easily accessible on your cheapest mobile handset, we choose to remain so damn ignorant. And so for the betterment of such ignorant readers (be grateful and send some good karma my way), I shall use this space for some valuable Lubee education.
Interview Aam Gaysi : “Mom, I’m Gay”
I kept thinking, “What’s wrong with him? Why doesn’t he say, I know that you are gay.” He just sat there looking at me and finally I just said it. “Because I am gay.” And his mouth fell open. I was actually shocked that he hadn’t figured it out already.
Legal: Part 1 (Past)
*Based on true events
The Past: India. I was 18 years old. On the verge of turning 19. Sitting at a coffee-shop in a large restored colonial bungalow that sold overpriced knick knacks and clothes on the inside. But the…
Pain
“Why not? Why do you think we have a P.T. period? You cannot simply sit through it,” he said, and then blew his whistle to call the captains of both the teams.
“Guys, take Kumar on one of your teams,” he said to both the captains.
“Oh! He is a Pottai * sir. I don’t want him in my team,” One of them said.
“Yes sir! He is such a Ombodhu *. He can’t play,” said the other one.
“…….”
The story was originally published in Tamil in Thinnai magazine.
‘The Mammaries’
So I have a love-hate relationship with breasts. Mine included! There are days, I wish I wasn’t quite as plump and there are days, I wonder whether I would look better if I was bigger! The first time I wore a strappy tube top, I kept tugging at it for the fear my top would fall down. When I looked at Pooja Bhatt baring it all many years ago on the cover of Movie magazine, I looked twice. When I discovered, I was gay – I spent time dealing with pretty much everything and breaking long held dreams and stereotypes.
Iceland : Part 3 (Finale)
*Note: Post contains explicit sexual content.
“It was winter dammit. December 2003!” She pushed me away and walked towards the couch. I had no choice but to follow her. She threw off her tee and sat on the couch with…
Unconditional Love
In many ways I am thankful to have the family that I do. My father seems indifferent about who I date, and just doesn’t like to talk about feelings. However, although my mother wasn’t the most supportive person when I came out of the closet, I truly believe that she did her best considering her place in this world. She didn’t even consider disowning me, and I acknowledge that as a privilege because I have seen friends (desi and non-desi) struggle with the fear of being disowned for going against their parent’s wishes.
Book Sham-e-Raah : Story Of One Night
Owais is a Bhopal-based author and poet, whose book of Urdu poetry called Sham-e-raah was published in 2002. While the book has the Hindi translations of the poems, here are Hanif saab’s translations of the poems in English. The book is several pages long, and we’ve approached another translator – a blogger if you must know – to translate some more of these poems. So these translations will come up every now and then.
Brooding Roosters
“Where are you from, Raghu?” asked Kumar.
“I grew up in New Jersey,” replied Raghu. “My parents are originally from Chennai.”
“Oh! Nice. Do they live with you here?” I asked.
“Oh No! It is just me, my partner Rob and our daughter Kamala.”
“Rob??” I got confused.
“Yes. Rob. Robinson”
“…….”
The story was originally published in Tamil in Thinnai and Thendral magazines.
Momentary…
A moment.
Complete.
Mine.
To Share
You
Stay silent.
Indifferent?
Do you forget?
I exist.
I existed?
Am I past tense already?
and I am left with a moment.
A Moment.
…
HEART, We Will Forget Him!
Hindi translation of Emily Dickinson’s ‘HEART, we will forget him!’
The Circulating Library
The circulating library concept seems to be one in vogue in the lesbian community: Case of few numbers, fewer single women and yes, off course the attraction of the forbidden. The first advice I got from my first lesbian friend who sat me down the night I came out to her was, “The lesbian world is very incestuous. So the first thing you have to learn is to be friends with your exes and your flings! We are just simply too few in numbers! Get ready for it.”
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