[Guest Author: Jane Doe]
The deal with being bisexual is that no one takes you seriously. I mean for most people it isn’t even a thing. It’s like “You like men don’t you? Yeah, then you’re straight.” But no, that’s just the point, I like women. A lot. So much so that I can’t walk through my crowded college mess without checking one or two out.
It’s just that I like different things about the two sexes. I like the softness of women and how we’re so strong inside and I like men, with their sports and bikes, and facial hair. And body hair.
And once you’ve struggled with admitting it to yourself and are beginning to tell others around you, scepticism really doesn’t do much for you. And if I hear “It’s just a phase” one more time, I swear I’ll strangle someone. Phases DO NOT continue for six or seven years or maybe more. The first time I ever felt anything of the sort was with a much older classmate of mine. She was thirteen, two years older than me and was really smart. And wore a bra. And was really fond of me. I really couldn’t put a finger to it, but I was acutely aware of her presence even if we weren’t really interacting.
There were a couple of times over the years when I’ve had friends whom I’ve felt a little uncomfortable being around probably because of some subconscious attraction. So no, it’s not a phase. I am bisexual, I like men and women.
And while it may sound cliché, I will quite Alice Pieszecki from the L Word who once very aptly said “I’m looking for the same qualities in a man as I am in a woman.” If and when I fall in love, I will fall in love with the person, not the sex.
Also it’s quite a misconception that bisexuals have it easy because they have the best of both. To me it’s all very confusing because you know you could fall in love with a person of the same sex and at the same time you’re hoping that in the interest of an easy, happy life you’ll end up the usual way, normal. And you can’t really tell your folks because frankly what do you say, “Mum, Dad, I like boys and I like girls and maybe someday I’ll bring either home”?
The very worst thing though is when you see a chick you really fancy with her boyfriend. That’s when it really gets to you because you can’t make it known. And the brainless, self destructive moron that you are, it still won’t go away.
Oh I learnt that it helps to follow Branson’s motto…….”Screw it, let’s do it” …. that works like a charm for me………
That last paragraph absolutely broke my heart.
I really hope things get easier for non-heterosexuals – very, very soon.
Well not always……… sometimes i do have second and after thoughts…. so……. yeah……
yes, i will indeed fall in love with the person, not the sex.
my mom says, choose a side, being bi is like….cheating.
i call it the best of both worlds.
i am indeed bi. this is not a phase, no.
If I would write a post on being Bi, THIS is exactly what it would be like..
I am tired of my friends thinking I am kidding, being the adventurous soul they think I am, or being plain skeptical, when I tell them that I am Bi-sexual.
And, oh I am trying to make the relationship I am in right now work so hard, just so I can live the normal, easy way.. I’ll prolly fall out at my own time and go explore the world like I am meant to..
Hmm Jane. You cant have it easy, I can see…you know what , sometimes my girl doubts whether I am Bi..but thats another story..Interesting reading about the “spectrum of sexuality”..http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klein_Sexual_Orientation_Grid
That is EXACTLY how I feel!! You stole my words!!
But the worst thing for me was to tell this girl (who isn’t into girls apparently) I work with, and see every single day that I have a MAJOR crush on her…and I did all this while I was drunk!