Your Gay friend decides to get married to a girl, due to parental pressure. His fiancee has no clue. What would you do?
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I would be saddened for the fiancée, because she deserves a man who can love her in every way (emotionally, physically, spiritually, and most importantly, wholeheartedly)!
However, I would also recognize that it isn’t my place to intervene.. I would only get involved in so far as talking with this friend and making sure he realizes what a grave injustice is doing (both to himself and to his wife).
Ultimately, it is his life and his decisions, and every couple has to figure out the dynamic of their relationship for themselves. Who knows? Perhaps my friend, despite his raging attraction for men, will grow to deeply love his wife, to the point that he learns to overcome his basal desires so as to remain faithful to her. (The idealist in me believes we all have the potential for bisexuality.) Or perhaps not.
Eitherway, I wouldn’t try take justice into my own hands by outing him as a preventative measure.
Ooh, this is a toughie. There should be an option between the first two – Outraged and will try to talk him out of it.
@Lady Jughead : I hear you Lad J! Tried and lost :(. Now?
Just be a friend and make sure you’re there for him to help pick up the pieces if ever his life should fall apart. She will have hers. Such is life. Courage to stay true to who you are takes a lot. Some have it, some don’t.
What come to mind is integrity and true to yourself. This is a complex issue. Parental pressure weighs heavy on a developing mind. Being lovingly honest to yourself and others is the highest ground to take. If you go into the marriage knowing you’re not there for the right reason all people will suffer in the end.