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Just when you thought we were BAD … We (MJ) get BADDER !
Now that you have been listening to our podcasts for a while, you may notice a pattern… every podcast starts off with MJ saying something blasphemous and Broomy requesting it to be edited out. Which I never do. And Chicklet has usually crawled beneath a piece of furniture a few minutes in. Its the way we roll.
This podcast is no different and filled with raucous un/truths …unedited. Now some of you may wonder after hearing this may wonder what was in the water that day.
But we (MJ) are just all about entertainment ! showmanship ! giving you listeners the best bang for your buck ( yeaaaah baby ) !
So listen on as we offend everyone for a good time ! *wink wink*
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OMG MJ, generalize much? south indian women, swoon!
Ok MJ.. Honey you might want to write a book. I can forsee it to be a best seller 😛 And if you guys wanna offend someone else, let me know coz I’ll send u the remaining list 😛
This was super fun just like the last one. Too good you guys!
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MJ! Who said South Indian women are not petite or girly? How many South Indian women have you “met”? I am offended! (*not talking face*)
Are you kidding? South Indian women are smokin hot!
Thats what we alllllllll saaaaaaaaaaid !!!!!! except MJ.
Okay….hold your GUNS here people. Never said South Indian women are not HOT. Yes they are! Very much! But I have meet HOTTER North Indian women. My fate I suppose.
What I meant was….South Indian women require a lot of effort. They take up hell lot of mind space in comparison to other Indian natives.
So basically if you are okay with the above…then its all bliss.
But you see I run on schedule…haven’t you heard, “So many women…so little time” 😉
BTW, Where is Lady J? Where is Rashmi? We need more South Indian representation! ( QC is sold out, obviously 😛 )
I’m right here, Shri, ignoring MJ’s sweeping statements. *_*
Gasp ! Shri ! I sold out? now I’m offended …*not talking face*
I am just teasing you QC, I love doing that to you. You know that right? I know you called out MJ on the podcast 🙂
wow the stereotypes used are crazy. I’m originally from Delhi and for the record South Indian women are the complete package. They’re smoking hot (Sridevi, Hema Malini etc) and they are intelligent and smart. They have qualities people would look at for a long term relationship rather than a one night stand. I could make stereotypes from North Indian girls i’ve known i,e they don’t believe in committment and they shift from girl to girl like they’re changing clothes but i don’t think one should generalise.
Now when my friend from Bangalore used to complain about North Indians/Mumbaites i know what she meant.
I don’t like this North vs South divide that always happens and how people , especially from the North, like to discriminate between the two. If India ever gets separated into pieces it’s thinking like yours that will be responsible.
We Indians abroad always stick together and we don’t believe in divides.
The crude MJ I heart!
apart from the north and south comments i found the podcast fun and enjoyable
South Indian women “take more effort”?? Err what kind of effort are we talking about here? Does this imply north Indian women are “easy” in some way?
Most of the south Indian women I’ve met (and continue to know) have these super combinations of attractiveness, intelligence, wit and charm, sexy voices, talent and cool confidence. That’s gonna “take more effort” for sure, cos they’re less likely to sigh at every word and laugh at every joke. I think they’re awesome. You know?
There you go! Thanks Zee Zee!
Actually find myself agreeing with MJ on something (thats a first – surprise, surprise!) – comment as regards Delhi girls being hotter! 😉
But I liked this one – thanks guys!
Oh my god, Shri is getting so insecure! Don’t worry sweety, you are super hot! 🙂
P.S. – The intent is not to hurt anyone. Sorry if I did.
MJ you’re so full of shit 😛 but highly entertaining. Very enjoyable. Big fan of the podcasts 🙂
Such love and praise….very overwhelming. I feel like Gaysi’s badass child. 😉
MJ – I second La Femme.
This wouldn’t be such a big deal if it was white hetero douchebros making sweeping statements about Indian women (complete with references to their lack of hygiene). I think queers should be able to generalize just like everyone else. And why is everyone piling on MJ for making sweeping statements? How many people have said ‘South Indian women are hot’ or words to that effect? Aren’t those sweeping statements or are those ok because they’re positive? I think the real question here is if you seduce a South Indian woman with no effort, does that mean she’s not really South Indian? Does it mean she’s really from Delhi?
@The flaming Gaymo : Let me get this right, so you are saying
A) White heterosexual men ridicule Desi girls, so Mumbai Lesbians can ridicule South Indian women?
B) One has to ignore “unhygenic”, “unpolished”, “hippos”,”not petite at all” comments because the next comment was “they are hot”
Well people you know probably don’t stand up to white men, but I will stand up to them and also to attacks on South Indian women.
Shri, my comment was intended to be intensely sarcastic to the point of being absurd. In all honesty, I cannot believe Gaysi thought it was ok to post something like this- I mean, what next? Tips on how to seduce North Eastern women? What you should know about bedding Kashmiris? I cannot believe that this made it online and that no one along the way said ‘this is not ok’. I find it sad that the loudest voice on the podcast is the bigoted one and that the few voices of reason are quiet and even giggly. I find it incredibly bizarre that this was posted in the name of being ‘entertaining’, and that people have even gone to the extent of defending MJ for being “honest” and that she seems to have cavalierly labeled herself the ‘badass child of Gaysi’ while Rashmi and Lady J both have opted not to really say anything.
Maybe you all know each other so you it’s easy to laugh this off and think it’s fun- and if this was purely for entertainment purposes, great! But I think it’s a sad day when one of the few online platforms for queer Indians thinks it’s ok to post something like this in the name of entertainment. White hetero douchebros would in fact find it increasingly difficult to get away with this kind of thing today but this site seems to tolerate and even encourage it from queer Indian women. Sweeping negative statements have been made about South Indians. These were countered by sweeping positive statements about South Indians. Both of these are sweeping statements which reflects the fact that both sides of the equation seem to be incapable of looking beyond the label ‘South Indian’.
There are queer South Indians out there who are looking for some kind of support online because they can’t get it in the real world. Imagine what it’s like to find something like this, not put up by some random commenter but by the Gaysi team. And yes this is the internet, if they don’t like it they should look elsewhere. And yes, they should learn how to take a joke- I mean, everyone else is laughing right? So I guess what I should be saying is, well done Gaysi, great podcast.
Dear Flaming Gaymo : I hear you. And Gaysi team hears you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts so eloquently. I have registered my opposition here : http://gaysifamily.com/2011/10/14/a-note-from-an-offended-south-indian-gaysi/
Love & Hugs!
Second La Femme as well. MJ is truly the queen of crass (and so full of shit). But she is honest guys, and has the guts to speak (honestly) on a public forum!
You’ve got to give her credit for that. (Given that most people aren’t honest – even to themselves!)
To put yourself out there (and eliminate many a prospective dating probable) takes guts!
p.s. I never thought I would ever be speaking up for the crass MJ, but here I am!
I do not agree or support anything here in this podcast. Politely said, I refrain from comments because I write for Gaysi as well.
love you. and i’ll second that.
seconded.
I love your irreverent (read that as “flippant” only) & saucy comments. Your podcasts are a treat.
Nevertheless, I find mocha colored southie women smouldering hot. Say, Lakshmi Menon. Too perfect but southie she is !
Flaming Gaymo
Yes, you’re probably right. We all know each other – so its probably easier to laugh off some of these things MJ has said.
You do have a point (and infact, I hate stereotyping people!)
L’enfant terrible may have gone overboard – but I don’t think it was intended as a serious discussion, just a fun chat between friends.
To that extent, it is brave of MJ to atleast have put herself out there – knowing she will be judged. I do find that a lot of people say one thing, and mean another….
Personally, I found Podcast 1 really crass….this one for me was funny (like the innumerable sardar jokes, southie jokes, bihari jokes etc that are intended to be taken as well – jokes!)
If we were to intellectualize, the term “south indian” itself is a massive generalisation. In a country as diverse as ours, is there such a thing as a “south indian”….or a “north indian”….??
Hullo Flaming Gaymo,
When I first heard the podcast, it ticked me off. I didn’t know where to begin responding or even how to. There was so much of what MJ said that I wanted to counter. Then as she went on, I realized it was just not worth it. Most of the things she’s said are such sweeping statements that it didn’t matter. They were all biased and were simply her own views. So I didn’t bother responding in any way other than saying that she’s full of shit.
As far as this podcast is concerned, Queer Coolie’s introduction made it pretty clear that it was pure entertainment. So I listened to her, took it as just that and laughed it all off.
But I won’t deny that you’re right in a way. If I hadn’t know her personally, I’m not sure I’d have liked stumbling across this. I don’t think I’d have laughed it off as easily. But having said that, I know if queer South Indians come here looking for support, they are sure to find it in at least one of the myriad other posts that offer it. I can vouch for that. I came looking. I found it.
Cheers,
LJ.
Lady Jughead, I understand your point still i would say it’s irresponsible to generalise a whole group of people on a blog like this. If a queer south indian was to come across this what further incentive would there be to explore the site? MJ could still have said her views in a nuanced way like saying for eg. some south indian people aren’t as petite, feminine etc etc as some north Indians. Why you have to say south indians aren’t
I know straight North Indian guys who are more sensitive to these issues and you would expect better on a gay indian website. I know there is a lot of racism in India especially against darker skin people more than in the west. darker skin people get discriminated and fair and lovely is catering to an ever growing market. I don’t think any justification of those comments is acceptable and i was disappointed by the much more muted voices of the other commenters. Many have lived abroad and while such comments may pass uncriticized in India the same can not be said for the nri community. We are more sensitive to such issues.
It would also be nice to hear from gaysis who are in committed relationships. Long term relationships where there is compromise, where attraction goes beyond looks. Otherwise it just seems we are a shallow bunch.
Some south indian representation would be nice as well. Perhaps Lady J you can join the next podcast and make it balanced.
Aishwaraya Rai is South Indian and Abhishek Bacchan is North Indian. They seem to be happy.
They seem to be perfectly happy. Hema Malini and Dharmendra are another such combination as are Sridevi and Boney Kapoor.
The writer of the 3 idiots book is North Indian Punjabi and his wife is South Indian. In his two states book he talked about all the stereotypes existing between North and South and how stupid they were. Perhaps MJ should read that.
Hmm..Are some straight people more open minded than gays? Seems like it.
I actually like hearing the podcasts and my criticism wasn’t to deter you guys frm that. You all do an awesome job and I don’t want you to take down any podcast you’ve done but just giving feedback so gaysi stays the awesome and welcoming place it is.
So here I am sitting at work reading Gaysi when I should be working. Technically. My boss should be offended. Anyway…
One thing is clear *some* people are offended. One option would be to bump off the Podcast, pretend this never happened and we move along happy. Wait a minute this sounds familiar, yeah…this is how our political system works.
The question I would like to ask is; This is a space where we encourage individuals to speak their mind. Their deepest darkest fears, their sadness, their inhibitions…practically everything under the sun (or moon, whichever you prefer). Often there have been arguments between us Editors on the type of content Gaysi should publish. The readership is growing and therefore a certain level of quality management should be put in place. And as always, I refuse to give in (thank you Broom & The Cathartist for being kind).
I personally don’t see Gaysi as a space where one needs to be politically correct. It is not a place created solely for “pleasing”. It is in fact a space where we have access to all shades of grey.
In simple words; when we encourage personal opinions…publish personal opinions….sometimes someone is bound to get upset. Then is deleting those views (posts/comments) the right step? Aren’t we then moving away from our sole intention of having a space like Gaysi? Do you really want writers/readers to think a zillion times before voicing anything….because they might be upsetting/hurting someone somewhere?!
And if this is what we want from Gaysi, then there are many many previously published posts which we should start deleting. Especially mine. 🙂
The point I am making is….Gaysi is about The Good, The Bad, The Ugly. And it is up to the readers to take whatever they want from it. Exactly what LJ pointed out; there are many encouraging/comforting posts too on Gaysi. Therefore it’s unfair to judge a space supported by many individuals who provide us content and encouragement belonging to all walks of life, merely on the basis of one Podcast.
I’d also like to point out, in the past people have taken offense to other the content published here. For instance, the Erotica. Simply because this was NOT the type of thing expected from Gaysi. Today, the Erotica category is one of the most read sections.
This Podcast will go down in history as NOT one of our greatest work. But all I am saying is that the intention was to have a carefree time…opinions were personal, especially mine. If I did offend, well I got the negative slash in return. Some even below the belt….and I accepted them. I mean you don’t see me bumping them off now do you?
One last thing: Apologies to my Team members…never wanted to put you guys in a tough spot. You are my family…and my present/future.
PS : The un-hygienic comment was NOT directed to South Indians. I believe it has been taken out-of-context. Which is kind accepted considering you have 3.5 women giggling to glory (in all honesty Chicklet was partially present). In fact I was referring it to *some* Mumbai Lezzies….Er…opppsss did I do it again?! 😉
I second this. This is a space where all of us are sharing our inhibitions and anxieties. If this was the space for ethical and political correct statements, Gaysi would not have had the readership it holds. It is about opinions and individuals should be respected for parting with them.
Personally, I heard it as a gay woman and not as a North or South Indian. It was fun and I was laughing my ass off. I fell off my chair again 😛 (Thats what MJ is good at apparently, making woman FALL :P) It was all in good fun so lets keep it at that. There is a whole world outside offended with the way we want to live our lives and we all know how that feels. So lets cut our dearest MJ some slack and move on!
All in good spirit you guys! 🙂
And MJ just because my name is not “MJ Fan” doesn’t mean I am any less 🙂 Keep them coming !!
I couldn’t listen beyond the first few minutes. I cannot believe such prejudiced comments would come from the editors of this site. Even if they were one individual’s views and not those of the board/team, the editorial policy needs to challenge this.
I request the editors to remove this podcast: it is in utterly poor taste. Unless, of course, they have no interest in retaining their south Indian readership.
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But you know what, enough said about this matter already. I think the point must have been duly noted. Let’s move on to the hot Southie chicks and the super smart Northie babes 🙂
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