Its summer and its Wedding Season ! Yay ! (Or if you are on the meat market…you have our sympathies)
On this edition of the Gaysi Podcast, we delve into the topic of Gay Marriage with a stunning cast of chatterboxes …from the happily “settled” like:
…Broomy (Is she really settled? perhaps this is all a phase? Tune in to hear Broomy discuss her 6 year lesbian experiment! A Gaysi Exclusive!)
… Pink Freud, who joins us as a special guest! (and tells us the woes of having to do AND fold the laundry in his relationship- a tell all !)
To the staunchly single:
…MJ (who once considered marrying…a man! Gasp! Enough said)
…Chicklet (with a big confession …she wants a Big.Fat.Gaysi.Wedding and won’t settle for less. Good luck with this one ladies!)
and myself, QC ! (who is on the market for a pet or a wife…no! no! no double entendres here!)
So, kick back and listen in while we chat about Gay matrimony’s smiles, frowns and upside downs. Enjoy and as always, chime in below!
Great podcast guys!
QC – with a voice like that – I am surprised you don’t have a queue of admiring pets…..er…wives! 😉
shaadi.com for gaysis is actually a cool idea. I think someone should do it. Maybe I will. Business proposition – if anyone wants to collaborate, get in touch. I think it may be viable.
Its interesting that you mentioned it today QC – coz I have all these hetero friends with profiles on simplymarry etc and think it would be nice we had such a concept for gaysis.
To clarify – yes dating sites exist – but in my (limited) experience of online “dating”….those are full of people leading double lives and looking for casual sex. Or on the other extreme, they are full of people intent on falling in love with you on the very second date!
Personally I like the concept of serious dating…..where the relationship outcome can be negotiated…call it “practical dating.” This is what a gaysi matrimonial site would do! And yes, it does make your options borderless. So lets go for it. hehe
It was going well till you reached the “Indian context”. It is pretty rich of you to talk about how bad India is for homosexuals. Don’t you realize that you have an audience in India that is fettered to the very society that you condemn? It be the truth but you sure know how to rub it in, ladies. I’ve taken umbrage.
Where was the discussion about marriage in this podcast? Much of it was a rehash of what your listeners already know. The only 2 people who have relationships haven’t gone beyond talking about “fighting like married couples” or “the big party and the honeymoon”. Did they have nothing else to add about their partners, their quotidian lives, their home, how they met, how long it took for them to commit, how they deal with distractions? The podcast was an extempore discussion about everything but gay marriage.
Well to refute what you have written would be absolutely silly of me because at the end of the day they are your thoughts, and this platform is all about initiating discussion.
In posts and especially Podcasts, those talking usually give opinions (state their thoughts) as per their experiences. Many a times we imagine ourselves in the center of a particular situation…and state things accordingly.
As for your comment on us placing too much time on ill effects of being a homosexual in India (rich talk)…I can vouch for myself and others, they were neither exaggerations nor making a statement “we are doomed”. Like I said earlier in my comment, conversations usually revolve around personal experiences and so was the case here.
The podcast was centered around “Marriage”. Breaking it down to whether it is important for one or not. Whether it is looked at as a legal formality alone or is companionship the sole reason. The Big Fat Gaysi Wedding (or Honeymoon). A bit on MOC. And last but not least, the support and acceptance of Family.
Personally I think we did a decent job fitting all of the above in 30 minutes. 🙂 The only thing I felt was missing were the “excessive giggles”.
PS – If you are really keen on knowing how Broom discovered her “Gay side”, followed by trapping a generous Cupid….you can always listen to our Valentine Special Podcast, and her posts. Gaysi is pretty much an open book. 🙂
While I’m flattered that you wanted to know about me and my partner, I don’t think this was the right podcast for me to talk about those subjects. The topic was gay marriage and we actually managed to stick to the subject, for a change! Also I have spoken/written so often about my relationship that I really don’t think anyone wants me to go over that stuff all over again!
Dear MJ & Broom, indeed I was keen on knowing more about the 6 year experiment and “a tell all” as promised by QC. Pardon the voyeur in me. Was a bit disappointed to find the talk centered around “gay” and “marriage” per se (strictly my perception). I second your views on India not being very gay friendly. I demurred because I found the references to India discouraging for the community that can’t cross its borders and must put up with stone age mindsets day in and day out. In perspective, I have been carping. I thank you for allowing dissent on the website.
Dear Junho,
When we let MJ say the most atrocious things on the podcasts, what is a little dissent via comments ? 😀 So carping or not, we are glad you wrote in…someone is listening. yay!
Perhaps I misrepresented about the 6 year experiment and the tell all…. but I joke. I know… I know, its a terrible habit that I am trying to kick. However, my sole intention was not to mislead but perhaps replicate the corny-but-oh-so-effective luring techniques that reputed magazines such as People and Hello! magazine often do on their covers ( e.g. Brad and Angelina were abducted by aliens! A true story ! … The Bachchans do their own laundry ! an exclusive inside !! etc.etc.)
As the person usually edits the podcasts ( notice how they all sound clipped and articulate without the mmmms and aaaahs…and how broomy sounds sexy? yeah. that is me 😀 ) … I do have to sometimes make subjective decisions on the fly about what to leave in and edit out. The reason I say this is because, I agree with MJ when she says she thought we had a good balance – especially with regard to balancing optimism with grounded reality. Having repeatedly heard the podcast, I thought it was important that the charm and cheer in both Pink Freud and Broomy’s relationships were clearly heard. Also of note in the podcast is that while they may now live abroad, one of these couples does consider moving back, while the other does deal with the trials of having family in India accept them.
Yet, you are right … actually living in India as a gay adult man or woman brings with it its own matrimonial travails and stone age mindsets… Happiness ends up being what we make of it. We speak of them with a grey tint because they are our experiences and not to rub salt into wounds.
MJ didn’t marry a man because she did not want to ruin someone else’s life even though it might have made hers easier. Chicklet has been inspected and examined by a parade of aunties at other people’s weddings as potential bride material. As for me, I’m the sheep in the family about whom relatives wonder in hushed tones going “how will they ever get her married? she talks too much! ”
So, I’ll stop now before I prove their point. But as always, we are here to hear and discuss and debate and hopefully, we can have another podcast in the future on the topic of Gay Marriage that has both an optimistic and domestic outlook.
Hi QC, thank you for following up. I can only imagine the challenges that you face while editing and putting up content on the portal and then having to answer for it. My apologies if I touched a nerve. At the same time, I didn’t mean to come across as the “perpetually offended” type. I am all ears to your views and am glad that the editorial team found my opinions worthy of a reply. Wishing you and the team all the very best in your endeavours.
Hi Junho et al,
I’m glad you challenged us and made us think about these things. This way we also learn from what the viewer’s/listeners want to see and hear rather than us bantering on about stuff that might not be relevant.
Perhaps there are some more questions that you would like to have answered. I can only speak for myself (I’m sure some of the others are willing as well) but I am more than happy to reply to some if not most of them to give you an insight of what I/we have gone through to get to this point. i can hear from you that it sounded as if it was a breeze for me/us to get to the point where we are now but far from really. I guess we do sometimes forget and just focus on the here and now and future as sometimes the past is too painful to think about or to remember and go back to that place. Everybody will have had their own experiences and feelings that come with that. Some are ok to think and feel back to that period, for others this might be too painful. Especially if they have had some losses on the way.
Pink Freud.
Hi Pink Freud,
Don’t take me wrong but you remind me of my crush (with a pang !). He takes anything between 8 and 24 hours to reply to my texts.
Throwing the gauntlet at the team was never my intent. I just had a divergent point of view and the team very graciously heard me out. Thanks to you too for replying. You’re right about people not wanting to revisit painful memories. I had a hard time after I came out to my family. They’re not to blame. But their sorrow and melancholiness made me feel as if I was impaled with a knife and it was being twisted constantly.
Thanks again. Warm regards.
PS to all Gaysi boys & girls – I recently found The Guyliner (theguyliner.wordpress.com) on the internet. His writings are rich with detail and acerbic humor. Highly recommended read for those on the dating scene.
Hi Junho,
I must look that up indeed. I first thought you were talking about eyeliner for men as my husband wears that sometimes when we go out, we call that guyliner so was a bit confused. Made myself laught though.
(And I hope the knife is now out and the wound is healing.)
Pink Freud.