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Rituals Of Queerness

Tantra has always been about balance and extremes but never just the one. I see people reclaiming their lost power, healing through shame and sexual trauma- graciously; claiming the power in their femininity and their masculinity, their lost womanhood and manhood, and hence fall to extremes and off-balance sometimes.

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Tantra has had many holistic approaches of finding the cosmos in the perceivable chaos; to claim what has been misguided to be of power but not divine; perhaps they saw hell and we saw fire; fire that was and is divine, our sexuality that is.

The fluidity, the concepts that tantra amasses with an entire different lineage of the past and present that every word brings with it, words that have been familiar to us but the contexts remain a secret; a comprehension of compassion.

Tantra has always been about balance and extremes but never just the one. I see people reclaiming their lost power, healing through shame and sexual trauma- graciously; claiming the power in their femininity and their masculinity, their lost womanhood and manhood, and hence fall to extremes and off-balance sometimes.  So this is about inclusion of fluidity in this vast incomprehensible concept of oneness; the polarity of man and woman is a simplified and exemplified portrayal of gender aspects; while it’s true of polarities existing but so are variations; we don’t exist only on the poles, but on an entire sphere, every concept flows constantly and endlessly; open for iterations, inculcating more and more different perceptions into them.

Sexual energy is an associative energy; we form patterns unknowingly and knowingly into our subconscious and the unconscious, patterns leads to fixation; these fixations breed the ego and sometimes the latter brings turmoil.

Is it really that difficult to see queer people with an equal representation in this spiritual space, is it? Of accepting trans and gender non-confirmative people with grace and love, and not see them with prejudices; we have been portrayed as abominations in the past and now as a compromise to merely exist in silence- preferably, as we are deemed a perverted expression of sexuality and identity; yet such fluidity is also seen as freedom, so which one is it?

There have been arguments by gurus claiming people of same genders making love are not fulfilled enough to attain cosmic realms of the divine, however they do not condemn the act; so what originated this logic, I must say it is a reasonable point- seemingly; however I do know it’s not true. The reason being not logic, but love which paved the way to a different truth; that realms of the cosmos don’t carry the same gateway for everyone; discovery is always personal; fulfillment can sometimes mean multiplication of aspects and not just completion; that conversations of truths and not erasure of some people’s existence brings divinity.

Is it fear, that makes you believe that such acceptance would mean losing or becoming the very same? I do agree it is human propensity to form such fears; however such arousal of fear is not instinctive but a teaching; we have been taught to feel this fear; why not reclaim your energy to feel graceful instead; you are allowed to not fear queerness, to not fear different aspects of different genders but do rituals of exchanging aspects; exchanging aspects is healing, and it doesn’t mean becoming queer-never.

I speak of this fear because it has not been an issue but a catastrophe; acceptance can never bring fear but love; our conversations are of the latter.

This story was about: Community Identities Mental health

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