Archive for the tag Relationships

Dating And Navigating Through The Second Adolescence Of My Queer Life

If I had met any other queer person or had attended a talk or session in school around sexuality, that would have remarkably helped my self-esteem and confidence while growing up. My limited exposure to narratives of queer sexuality pushed my emotions into a never-ending internal turbulence; a turbulence unbearable for an adolescent person.

One Night ‘Talk’

There was something about her reassurance that soothed my distress. "Forgive me if I do anything wrong," I managed to blurt out. Smiling widely at my words, she answered, "Never met anyone like you before," she exclaimed, "but I guess I am lucky."

Thinking Out Loud About Polyamory And Who May Practice It

I identify as a bisexual cis woman but i came out as polyamourous not very long ago, after a lot of struggle with myself; this is my first attempt to go public with this piece of information. Not that it will make a difference to anyone but it will change a lot of things for me.

New Petition To Recognize Queer Marriages In India; This Time From OCI Cardholders

Queer couples from various walks of life have made a case for the Indian government to recognize their civil union in accordance with their rights guaranteed by the Indian Constitution. On July 6, an Overseas Citizen of India (OCI) and his American spouse put forth their petition to be allowed to visit their family in India aided by their status as OCI cardholders, a benefit extended to foreign spouses upon completion of 2 years of marriage. But not in the case of 'same-sex' partners? The couple is seeking answers and change.

Low On Spoons But Full Of Pride: On Being Chronically Ill And Queer

A major social construct that disability activists seek to overthrow is ableism - the discrimination and social prejudice against people with disabilities, based on the belief that certain abilities are universal as well as desirable. Disability Pride Month is also a call to discuss the issue of ableism so that the world can become more inclusive and accessible to people of all abilities.

What Does Pride Look Like?

When you realise your boss only does off-the-record, early morning catch-ups with you alone as soon as he discovered you are the gay lead in a play. Off work, he continues to single-handedly use his position of power to intimidate and invalidate you, without ever mentioning your sexuality.

Yoga And Queerness

Thin people often become the face of fitness and this extends to the brand of yoga. It is also seen as an activity to become thin, to gain that 'hot summer bod', rather than as a mindful practice. However, in the spirit of subversion of dominant heteronormative ideas of movement, we spoke to Allé K (he/they), a queer, fat, trans masc activist and educator who is also a certified yoga instructor.

Here’s Why There’s No Such Thing As A Coming Out Story

I've always had a problem with the phrase, to be honest. I had never understood the need to disclose my sexuality to someone. I was a naive child. I was uncomfortable around heterosexuals. I didn't see their story or read about them; I was very annoyed that there are so many of their kind.

My Stretch Marks Tell My Story

Through all of the ups and downs of my acceptance journey, my body has picked up some battle scars, or ‘physical accolades’ if you will, in the guise of stretch marks. These stretch marks used to torment me as glaring signs of my flaws but now I view them as markers of my journey, as imperfections that make me who I am. My stretch marks tell my story.

Dear Ex-Classmate

Everyone asks, “When did you know you were different?” No one asks, “When did you know you were in love?” I know. I remember the exact moment. Have you ever been hit by a truck? Or imagine, if you will, being fried so slowly that you believe you are getting a particularly intense tan until you see your skin falling off. Both very different images and sensation, and none anyone would ever associate with love. See how scared I am?

The Surprise Of Group Therapy

Walking into my first group session felt nerve wracking and started to bring anxiety; however, since I was not required to speak or share about myself, there was much less pressure and I could be in the background. Unlike graduate school, where you can’t really get by without talking to anyone, I went on for days without speaking to anyone during my group therapy sessions. I didn’t know what to say or the right thing to say, I didn’t know if there was a point even in sharing what I was going through to a group of strangers.

“Am I Queer Enough?” An Essay Dissecting My Queer Imposter Syndrome

Most days, I still don’t feel queer enough. People call me a “boring bisexual” because I am not big on the performance of my sexuality. There was a lot of internalised homophobia and misogyny that I had to unlearn for me to be able to come out. It didn’t happen in a day, it still hasn’t. It’s a process I am still working through but the self-doubt, incessant questioning, and feelings of being an imposter haven’t stopped.

Haseen Dillruba: India’s Nice-Guy Fantasy

The film is populated with our everyday misogynists without any meaningful criticism levied at any of them: the casually verbally-abusive and tharki neighborhood boys, the misogynist-stud Neel who takes non-consensual photographs and publicly broadcasts intimate liaisons, the friend-of-the-husband who thinks women ought to be trained and our very own protagonist nice-guy who’s the quintessential incel with his ranting about ordinary nice boys going unnoticed and his barely concealed scary, violent rage.

A Naive Caterpillar

I was anxious when I was told to come see you— anxieties many say I shouldn't have felt had I been with “the right one”.

Pride Is Political

Representation in the active politics and bureaucracy, having equal job opportunities, equal wages, right to safe living & public spaces, not being used as a wider consumer group for merchandise, not being othered or alienated from society - all of these matters just as much, if not more. This is what makes queer existence so political, whether we acknowledge it or not - having to demand the same rights and safety that straight people take for granted.